How to deal with your girlfriends male friends

This is always a tricky situation and there is no clear cut solution to deal with this one, but the best I can do is offer some pointers for you to think about. Chances are high that your girlfriend will have male friends. There may not be a lot of them but there will be a couple. Maybe they are old school friends or work colleagues who are male. The question then is, how do you deal with these male friends?




The simple answer would be; don’t do anything about it, they are just friends. How we wish this was the situation 10 out of 10 times. But as guys I would be the first to say that at times we are very cynical. If a girl shows us a window of friendship we may tend to take advantage of it and decide to ‘make a move’ on her even though she is just a friend.



Now if I am this girls boyfriend, how am I meant to feel with my girlfriend having a lot of male friends that she constantly talks to and goes out with. Should I be afraid? Well if they are cynical guys like I mentioned above then you must be worried because that guy could be making a move on your woman.



Chances are that you probably know your girlfriends male friends and you guys probably hang out a lot together. Clearly if you are there and her male friends are there, you should not be worried. What could be worrying is when she starts constantly talking to her male friends and going out with them with you not there. What then do you do? Do you ban her from talking or seeing her male friends? I do not think that would work. Banning her is a harsh thing and it clearly shows your insecurities and this brings up the issue of trust. The foundation of any relationship is trust and if you do not trust your girlfriend then there is no point being in that relationship. You have to trust that when she is talking or with her male friends it is just that and nothing ‘fishy’ is going on. Yes there maybe some of her male friends who will jump at the opportunity of trying to turn that friendship into something more but if your girlfriend is true to you then she will not do anything with this guy and she should then be in a position to actually question that guys friendship with her.



My thoughts about this matter are; do not ban or deny your girlfriend from having male friends. Let her do what ever she pleases and with whomever she pleases. She at the end of the day will decide if she wants to cheat on you with her male friends and if she does so then there is no point being in the relationship. She herself should know how to ‘handle’ herself with her male friends and should respect the fact that she is in a relationship with you and only you.



Women need a certain amount of male friends in their life and just because they are now in a relationship with you, that does not mean they should stop talking or seeing their male friends. If you try to force her to stop being with her male friends, you are just preparing yourself for a disaster.