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Friday, December 31, 2010

Methods Of Procrasturbation

We all know how hard it is to get important work done sometimes. We know it's there, staring us in the face and waiting to be completed, but for some reason we just don't want to think about it. We can't get motivated enough to just rally ourselves and be done with it. The technical term for this is procrastination: the simple act of putting off work until later.






However, procrastination can go one step farther when we start having fun while avoiding our work. This is called procrasturbation. Now, some might say that this term only applies to a specific pleasurable act in conjunction with the putting off of work, but I think the definition is more broad than that. When one procrasturbates, it means you're having fun in spite of all the work piled in front of you. Procrastination, in contrast, does not necessarily involve fun, but only the wasting of time.



I myself have become a master of procrasturbation. I leave myself just enough time to get projects done without compromising my sleeping or eating patterns. Don't misunderstand, though. This isn't really something to be proud of, but rather a simple fact — a force of nature that cannot be controlled or stopped. Of course, just as rain and wind can be usefully harnessed without necessarily controlling them, so too can procrasturbation. If you're going to do things you enjoy, make sure they're useful to you in some way, even if they don't directly relate to the work you're putting off.



For example:



-Good exercise: Lots of people actually enjoy breaking a sweat and getting the blood flowing, and the old adage about a sound body leading to a sound mind is really pretty true. Exercising relieves stress, stress which is likely brought on by a large workload. Anything you can do to reduce that stress and get your head back in the game is worth it. Coupling it with loud music can also help get you pumped and ready to tear into those nagging assignments as well.



-A hearty meal: One of the most satisfying ways to procrasturbate is eating a good meal. I can remember lots of days from elementary school all the way through college where I put off work while I shoveled food into my mouth. Even though it's a good way to stall, it still serves a purpose. The less hungry you are while you're writing your last-minute term paper, the more likely you are to get it done right, and quickly. You won't be inclined to take breaks, either.



-Read: Unless it's Us Weekly or People, most of what we read is good for us, be it a novel, magazine or a newspaper article. It might not be too productive, but at the very least it's engaging your brain, and at the best it's educational. If you're lucky you might glean an idea or two from what you're reading, making your actual project that much easier to complete. And perhaps it's just me, but after every book I finish, I feel a small, but noticeable sense of accomplishment — not enough to pat myself on the back, mind you, but a small sense of satisfaction that I finished something I set out to do. That little push might be all one needs to work up the motivation to finish a project.



So you see? Procrasturbation can actually lead you into productivity and help reduce the mounting stress, while simple procrastination is more likely to lead you into a severe freak out the day before your work is due.



What other ways can one pro-actively procrasturbate?

Thursday, December 30, 2010

想你用十天,来生还你一辈子

“老公啊,我们什么时候能结婚啊?”女人一脸好奇的问,从声音分辨,她是很轻快的询问!他们在一起时间不久,两年而已,相处两年的情侣到处都是,随便就能抓出一大把,而现在的人,能有几个在交往的时候考虑结婚的?
“现在工作上也没什么突破,过两年吧!”男人轻轻柔柔道!
“哦!”没有失落亦没有兴奋,似乎预料中!
“老公啊,那假如有孩子了怎么办?”
“你有了?”男人严肃的握住女人的手,眼神犀利的盯住她!
“你抓痛我了啦!”女人喊了出来,“我是问问而已,有了我会告诉你的!”
“老婆,你记得,以我们现在并不适合要孩子,经济上也许可以不用顾忌但是心理上还无法接受,养育一个孩子不是养育一只小宠物那么简单;如果有了要告诉我,我会陪你去医院的,明白吗?”听了女人的话,男人放下心来,也柔下声音来对女人说着自己的观点!
“你放心好了啦,我不会那么不注意的,即便是有了也不会瞒你的,嘿嘿!”女人清爽的声音再度响起!但在心底,女人不知道是否该赞同男人的话,彼此工作其实都不错也算稳定;已经多次思考过,男人只是交往初期提到过结婚,而当彼此交往变得稳定后就没有涉及过婚姻;女人虽然大大咧咧但不是真的傻!其实真不知道他们之间的问题到底出在哪?是不爱吗?虽然感觉不到爱却也没感觉到哪不爱,也许是时间让彼此都沉静了!现在他们住的房子,一半是女人出钱按揭的;她习惯平衡!平日逛街,他也从来没有陪过她,她从来不觉得有什么不舒服,毕竟习惯自娱是最容易快乐的方式,这时候却想到这个动作是否也能衡量他的感情。
“老公啊,今天你陪我逛街好不好?你还从来没陪我上过街呢!”女人撒娇的说。
“忙呢!乖,怎么今天想到要我陪了?”男人漫不经心的问!
“那你要不要嘛?”
“自己去吧,要买什么自己去提款就是!”男人的眼光始终专注在文件上!
“老公,我突然想嫁给你了,怎么办?”清纯美丽的小脸上闪亮的大眼无辜的望着男人;这句话把男人的注意力拉回到她身上。男人望着眼前这个没被现实的残忍划下太多痕迹的女子,隐隐的不耐与无力!
“那张纸对你来说是什么意义?”男人放下手上的工作打算和女人好好的谈一次!
“不知道!想和你结婚跟那张纸有牵连吗?”
“你想结婚不就是想要那张纸吗?”男人牵动了下眉。
“如果你那样想也可以啦,你有没有想过和我结婚?其实也是在问你的未来有没有把我算在内!”依然是轻快的声音。
“从一开始我就是打算和你一直走下去的,你不会不明白。”男人间接的回答。
“你从来没有直接的回答过我的问题耶,不管是怎样的问题都好!”女人把声音放到很嗲;“好了啦,不跟你讨论了,免得气死我自己!嘻嘻,那我自己去逛街啦,不要你陪,哼!”话音一落,她拿起包以轻快的姿态走出房间!
身后的门一关上,原本笑意盈盈的脸瞬间沉下来,换上一脸苍白与哀愁,眸底有着让人捕捉不住的幽晦迷离!迈出脚步,缓缓的走在人潮拥挤的路上,脑子里一片空白却也塞满了思绪,一直都以为自己是很快就能过渡伤害放大欢乐的开心着,这次用尽了力气,却做不到;泪水直流!有的时候不甘愿输给命运却不得不屈服于宿命!快乐的妖精这会,不快乐!哭够了,收起眼泪扬起笑脸,冲到步行街给心爱的他选了十套西服十件衬衣十条领带十个胸针十双袜子十双鞋子,信用卡几乎被刷暴,但是她笑得看不到眼!这时候的她,又是一个精灵,能感染人的精灵!
东西太多扛不了,只好打车回去!得意洋洋的向他炫耀自己的战绩,他看到那么多的衣服,最角边隐隐的抽搐,看着身旁这个做事向来一鸣惊人的她不知做何反应!
“老公啊,这些都我挑的,不错吧?”看着自己挑的西服她自我陶醉,对自己的眼光她向来自信!

“老公啊,这些衣服记得已经慢慢穿哦,今天看到好看的心血来潮就帮你买了!哼,你要敢说一个不喜欢的字眼,我就让你吃不了兜着走,听到没?”插着腰威胁,故意板起那张娇滴滴的脸!
“好!我不说不喜欢,但是你买这么干什么?你怎么总是那么浪费!”男人语带指责。
“哎呀啦,老公,反正都已经买了你骂我也没用啊!你就多疼我一点也喜欢上这些衣服吧,好不好嘛?”撒娇的摇着他的手,一脸的委屈状!他回她一个无奈的眼神,揉揉她的头发;
“好好好!你呀,以后记得别这样了听到没?否则就算你撒娇我一样不饶哦!”
“恩恩恩恩!”拼命的摇晃着脑袋!
“嘿嘿...西西...”女人一直在咧着嘴傻笑个不停,男人见状亦拉开嘴笑了出来,他的女人太可爱了,和个孩子一样无忧,也有成熟女人的知性;有“妻”如她,还有什么不满足?他在心里也在琢磨着见家长的事,一直都不再提起结婚的事只是想给她一个惊喜,当初在一起的时候,他就下定决心娶她!
“老公啊,我这个月回家去陪我妈妈好不好?毕业到现在我都没有在家好好呆过呢,妈妈好想我了,我怕弟弟娶到的老婆欺负我妈,我要回去好好‘教育’弟弟去!”晚上的时候她楼着他,手在他身上挠着痒痒,他边逃开他的魔爪,边取笑:“你终于有良心记起妈妈啦?”
“西西,人家我可是乖乖女咧!老公,我买了明天中午的机票,这段时间你可要好好照顾自己哦!”
“原来你是有计谋的啊,我说你怎么忽然对我那么好!”男人假装凶神恶煞!
“哈哈,你装的都不像了啦!讨厌~。。。”
笑声溢满整个世界!
半个月过去,男人耐不住没有女人在身边的空寂,思念她的调皮,想念她的体温;拨通她电话,男人细声细语的磨女人赶快买票回来!电话里她清爽如银铃般的笑声回荡在整个脑海里令他眼圈犯红!
“老婆,你回来好不好?我们结婚吧!”
电话另一头刹那静如死寂!“你,不是不想娶我的吗?”沉默过后,女人轻轻的问!
“我不是不想,我是想在适当的时候给你一个惊喜,只是还是熬不过思念先说了!”男人解释着!
“西西,好啊,你等我回去好不好?”女人恢复精灵样!似乎得到了全世界一样!
继续半个月过去了,男人见女人迟迟不归,再次拨通电话;这回电话响了好久才被接起,却是女人的弟弟接的,男人询问他女人怎么还没回来,弟弟说她那里还需要处理点事,还没那么快能走开,告知很快就回,请他别挂心!
再半个月后,男人接到来自女人弟弟的电话,电话里,弟弟让他马上过他们家去,说女人有事!男人吓到了,定好机票如箭般飞奔机场!
到了x市,女人的弟弟接机,弟弟一眼就认出男人,一路沉默的把男人领到医院;不祥的预感笼罩着男人,病房门开,女人瘦弱苍白的脸震撼住男人,心猛的被狠狠的揪了一把,绞痛难耐!拖着软无力的腿,迈到紧闭双眼的女人身边,用手,轻轻的抚着那熟悉的脸颊,一下一下的抚摸着!
“姐姐胃癌晚期,拖了两个月了!”弟弟在一旁轻轻说着,女人的父母眼圈瞬间又泛红!
这个意外,真的太意外了,意外到连怎么回事都弄不清楚,意外到他感觉自己是在云端!胃癌,原来女人总是说没胃口总是不吃东西,说减肥是女人的终身事业,这一切都是借口,他责怪自己怎么就没用心去观察过;怪自己那么大意让女人独自撑着这最难熬的日子!
女人去天堂后的半个月!从女人住的那个城市寄来一封信,男人看着熟悉的字体,浑身颤抖:
亲爱的老公:
一定在想我了,是吗?一定是的,我在天堂都感觉到了呢! 老公啊,你说想和我结婚,真的好感动哦!原本以为你只是想和我在一起并 没有和我共度一生的想法!老公,谢谢你的爱! 和你在一起啊,真的是世上最幸福的事呢!每天早上醒来你都会喊手麻,西西,知道吗?老公,这是最最感动最最记忆犹新的片刻,在家的这些日子我都睡不着,没有你的手臂当枕头没有你的怀抱当港湾;但是我不后悔,我不愿意你看到我被病魔折磨的不成人形的样子,我相信换你你也不会让我看到自己痛苦的一面!老公,原谅我,以后只能在天上笑给你听了!老公啊,一年前,我是多么希望时间能够定格,多么想永远永远都把你铭记于心底,但是发现怎么看你都看不够,我不知道要怎么做才能让心里舒服点,我知道你爱听我笑的声音,其实我自己也好喜欢自己的笑呢,所以就天天笑,让你永远都记得我,是不是好自私?我怕我走了之后你把我的一切都尘封进一个连碰都不会去触碰的角落里,我好怕,怕在那里我会冷,所以就用爱让你对我刻骨铭心!我把每天当成最后一天来过,所以,够了,今生有你,够了!

上次帮你买的衣服袜子鞋子,你每年在我离开的那天穿上一套去看我好不好?十套,那就是十年,十年里,你只能用十天的时间想我,在特定的那天里,你才可以想起我也不准不想我,你知道我喜欢紫色玫瑰花,记得去找到哦,我对我老公可是很有信心的呢!记得,一年就是那一天能穿,别的时候不要去碰那些服装,如果你忘记了,那么在你老之后看到那些衣服,也许能想起我的这个要求呢!西西,以后你娶老婆了,记得在那天的时候带来给 我看,但是不要告诉她我是谁,是女人都会介意的,就说...呃...就说我是你的青梅竹马好不好?我好羡慕那些青梅竹马长大的人哦!以后你娶老婆了,那她就是“咱老婆”,你要对咱老婆好哦,就像对我这样,因为我在天上看着呢;虽然我会哭会吃醋,但是我更不舍得女孩子伤心;你下辈子欠我一生,好不好?下辈子我会是一个好健康好健康的宝宝呢,到时候我会用力用力的缠你一辈子,直到老去!
老公,我不想告诉你我爱你这个事实了,怕你哭!我只看过你哭一次,那次我任性和你提分手;但是现在的你一定也是在哭,对吗?不只是眼睛哭,心也在流着泪!老公啊,不要让心停格在那凄楚哀怆的瞬间,笑着面对人生,帮我笑完今生,好吗?
从现在开始,不要悲哀不要消沉;想我只要用十年里的十天;十年后把我从生命里彻底清除,我自私,但是我怕我的自私让你恨我;所以我就赖你十年,就十年好不好?十年,我们就真的忘记彼此,期待来生!


已经在履行约定的傻孩子
泪滴湿了信纸,男人痛哭失声!天渐渐的暗了,黑了,窗外灯光斜射了进来,男人整理好情绪;“老婆,我记得你十年,想你用十天,来生还你一辈子!”轻轻的,对着天际呢喃!

Monday, December 27, 2010

Love Quiz 1 - Are you in a healthy and happy relationship?

Many of us stay in a relationship despite it is an unhappy one because of the love we have for that special someone. Then again, a bad relationship is unhealthy for your mind, body, health and it can raise blood pressure, stress levels and cause emotional ache. Try my relationship quiz below to find out if you are in a healthy relationship and how you can fix it if your relationship is gloomy. Just match your answers to the corresponding icons or shapes and add up to check your result at the bottom of this post.

1) How often do you and your partner argue?
♥ Once in a while to clear the air
★Sometimes but I always feel iritated with my partner's behaviour but I am tolerating
♫ Almost never
◆ Almost daily

2) What is the main cause for argument?
★ Sex
♥ Insignificant and silly matters
◆ Clashes in opinions and views on life
♫ Not spending enough time together

3) How do you and your partner get back to normal after an argument?
◆ It will be days for us to speak to each other again
♫ We forgive and forget quickly
★We just go to bed and it will be all OK when one of us apologize the next morning
♥ We discuss calmly for a win-win solution

4) How often do you feel emotionally secure with your partner?
♫ Always
♥ Most of the time
★ Once in a blue moon
◆ On no account

5) Do you trust that your partner is faithful?
★ Not when things are ugly between us
◆ No way! I strongly suspect that my partner is having an affair!
♫ I guarantee that my partner will never ever cheat on me
♥ We all make mistakes, but I trust that my partner would not betray our love

6) What is your sex life like?
♫ Great!
♥ Good most of the time
★ Can be better
◆ Absent

7) If you are having a bad day, will you go to your partner for comfort?
★ Depends, sometimes I feel better talking to a close friend
◆ No, my partner will not comprehend, we will end up arguing and I will feel worse
♫ Yes, my partner never fails to cheer me up during my depressing times
♥ Yes, he will listen to me, allow me to complain and then do something sweet that makes my day again

8) How would you feel if you ever break up with your partner?
♫ No! I can't imagine living my life without my partner
♥ I will feel sad and devastated of course, but I know I will move on after that
★ I think about it at times but I end up staying at the end
◆ I feel life will be so much meaningful and wonderful all over again

9) Which of the followings stresses your life most?
★ Work
♫ What is stress?
◆ My relationship
♥ A little bit of everything

10) How happy are you in your relationship?
♫ I am very happy
♥ I am good most of the time
★ So-so
◆ Not happy most of the time

RESULTS!
Mostly ♫ - It is TOO Healthy
A relationship with no arguments is too good to be true. Arguments may not be entirely unhealthy for a relationship. Infact, arguments enhance the relationship with better understanding and also help to reconcile differences to help relationship to grow. The key is to argue the smart way! Hence, do not be afraid to reveal your true self and it is absolutely OK to argue once in a while provided you do not argue over senseless matters.

Mostly ♥ - Wow!
Keep up the good work. You are in a stable relationship that offers mutual support. However, always keep in mind that you may still be in the honeymoon period or the experiencing the excitement of falling in love. You may need to work harder to keep the sparks alive once normality sets in. I would suggest you check out my post on 123 ways to express your love to maintain your relationship healthy and alive ;)

Mostly ★ - Err??
You are in a so-so relationship with uncertainties about whether you should continue or leave your relationship. This is not very healthy and often this is the time when people have affairs due to insecurities. You should rediscover the reasons why you chose to be with your partner initially and plan some quality time together to revive feelings of love and build on understanding.

Mostly ◆ - OMG!
It is time for you to save or leave your relationship. If you feel that the relationship is worth saving, make effort to improve the relationship to a state that is acceptable to both of you or seek professional help. However, if the relationship is resulting too much stress, depression or health problems, it is time to say goodbye.

Online dating similar to face-to-face meetings





People dating online behave similarly to those who meet face-to-face, researchers have found.



Experts at the University of Kansas quizzed more than 5,000 participants in a national Internet matchmaking service to determine what kinds of people are most likely to lie about topics such as personal interests, attributes, past relationships, age and weight during the online dating process.



Jeffrey Hall, assistant professor of communication studies, found that those most likely to lie in the virtual world were “high self-monitors”, people who have an acute sense of what people like and control their behavior to achieve social ends.



Hall said: “What people lie about depends on what kind of people they are. For example, if you’re an extrovert, you might downplay the number of past relationships you’ve had because chances are you’ve had more relationships than an introvert.”



Hall added: Online daters shouldn’t be concerned that most people are presenting a false impression of themselves. What influences face-to-face dating influences the online world, too.”

Saturday, December 25, 2010

请每一个恋爱中的人耐心地看下去

“我们分手吧!”


这是女孩见到男孩说的第一句话!男孩沉默了一下,点点头:“好!”

女孩愣住了,打了男孩一巴掌,然后很生气的离开女孩走后,男孩抱着头躲在厕所大哭…

回到家后,女孩把男孩送给她的围巾扔到垃圾桶里,她再也不要看见他了,就在他答应分手的那一瞬间,她什么都不必再问了。

曾经,男孩像宝贝一样溺爱着她,就算刮风下雨,他也会跑遍整个城市去买女孩最爱吃的巧克力蛋糕。

去年,女孩的生日的前几天,大雨倾盆。男孩骑着自行车,逛了七十八条街,收集了九百九十九张一分人民币,然后每晚笨拙地折着纸船。

女孩生日那天,男孩偷偷把九百九十九只纸船放在女孩的枕头边,下面夹着一张纸条:老婆,生日快乐!虽然礼物只值九块九,但是我对你的爱是无价的。老公

女孩醒来后,看到了纸条和礼物,很惊讶,也很感动,她相信这个男人可以让她依赖一辈子还不够!

这几个星期以来,男孩总是很少陪女孩,偶尔和女孩一起,他总是不耐烦的听女孩吵着要他陪她去哪里玩!听着听着,男孩趴在女孩肩膀上睡着了,女孩生气地撇开他,生气地说:“跟我在一起,你真的这么累吗?如果是的话,你回家去睡觉吧!以后就别出来了”这是分手前最后一次出来女孩对男孩说的话。

那次过后,女孩每次打电话给男孩,总是语音繁忙,或者不在服务区内!

女孩在生日的前一天晚上来到了男孩家,她看到阳台上晾着一堆女孩子的衣服,她的心似乎一下子悬到喉咙,什么也说不出来。她沉默地坐在沙发上,等待着男孩的到来。

“咔嚓”一声

男孩托着疲惫的身子走进来,他看见女孩很惊讶,还没来得及和她说什么,女孩就先开口了。

“我们分手吧!”

“好!”

原本女孩抱着最后一丝希望,只要男孩拒绝,她就相信他没有背叛自己,可是他很干脆的答应了!

二十三点五十九分,女孩的手机响了,是男孩打来的.“老婆,生日快乐!”

“我们都分手了!你就别再这样称呼”女孩心痛地说。

“老婆,我想见你,我已经在去你家的路上,再过五分钟就到了,我有很重要的话要跟你说!”说完男孩挂上了电话。

女孩坐在窗前数着时间一点一点地过去,已经是凌晨两点了,男孩还没出现。她关上灯,钻入被窝,合上疲惫地双眼,很快进入梦乡…

“老婆!”女孩听见男孩的呼喊从梦中惊醒,只见男孩静静的坐在她床边。

“你这个骗子,你看看现在已经几点了?讨厌你”女孩怒不可遏地吼着。

“老婆,刚才在路上发生了一起交通事故,所以堵车到现在了!”

男孩抱着女孩,他的眼神有点呆滞,体温也很冰凉,女孩原本要挣开,但是他抱得很紧。

“老婆,不要这样!我只能待一小会儿,我只是来看看你就走,一会就走!你什么都不要说,听我说!”

“分手了,以后你就要一个人过了!我很担心,没有我你该怎么办?”

“你不爱吃早餐,每天总是要我帮你弄你最喜欢的煎蛋才肯吃。我不在了,谁来给你弄早餐?”

“你胃病发作的时候总是要在我的怀抱中睡去,我不在了,谁给你怀抱?”

“老婆,你知道吗?你好霸道的,你开口想要什么,就算是天上的星星我也得给你摘下来,不然你就好几天不跟我说话的!”

“老婆,那一次被你叫去医院义务捐血,捐完血我一个人先走了,后来你一星期不理我,最后我在公车上大喊十句‘老婆,我错了!’然后你才肯跟我说话!老婆,其实我晕血,抽完血脸色苍白,我怕你担心,所以一个人先走了!”

“老婆,你今天跟我说分手,我躲在厕所大哭了,你一定会笑我没出息吧!为什么要躲?因为我姐姐快回家了,她这几天住在我家,我怕她看见,你还没见过我姐姐吧!”

男孩长叹了一口气,笑着说:“我今天废话好像太多了,呵呵!老婆,你快睡吧!我要走了!”女孩听着男孩的对白,心突然感到很酸,一种生离死别的感觉。她看着男孩总觉得他和平常有点不一样,但却说不出哪里不一样!看着他离去的背影,女孩有种想要叫住他的冲动,但是她还在气头上,这次一定要他求她一个月她才和他说话!



阳光斜射进卧室,女孩躺在床上伸了伸懒腰。

电话急促的响起,女孩不耐烦的接起来,电话里传来一个陌生女子的抽泣声

“我是阿郝的姐姐,阿郝他,他,呜!他,他,出车祸了!”

医院里,男孩安静的躺在床上,他的双眼紧闭着,脸色和床单一样惨白,女孩抱着他的遗体,愣愣的,什么也不说!

男孩的姐姐告诉她,昨天晚上他和一辆卡车相撞当场死亡,他来不及留下遗言,就被死神带走了!

“我看到他的时候,他的眼睛是睁开的,手里紧抓着这个戒指。他为了在你生日时买这个戒指向你求婚,每天晚上和别人跑去矿上挖煤,有好几次遇到塌方差点丢了性命!”

女孩觉得眼前一片黑,身体无力的倒下!

从此女孩没有再谈过恋爱,她永远记住了男孩的身影,下辈子若能遇见他,她要在公车上跟他说一万句:老公,对不起!



后记

8月7日

再过一个月就是老婆的生日了!今天在珠宝店里看到了一款叫做疼爱一生的求婚戒指。今年生日要跟老婆求婚。

8月10日

今天听单位里一个同事说矿上招挖煤的,很好赚!我吵着跟去了,真的很好赚,一个晚上就有五十元了!

8月15日

原来挖煤好危险,还有塌方,差点被压到了!

8月21日

今天老婆跟我算帐,说我最近不接她的电话,问我是不是讨厌她了?这个可爱的笨丫头,我一辈子疼她都来不及,怎么会讨厌她,但是我不能跟她说矿上信号很差!那就让她误会吧!

8月27日

今天和老婆出去,我不小心睡着了,她很生气地骂了我一顿,都怪自己为什么不小心睡着了!就算昨天五点多才睡,也不能打瞌睡,和老婆在一起是最快乐的!

9月1日

今天姐姐从乡下来看望我,妈叫我年底一定要把女朋友带回去给她老人家瞧瞧!

9月4日

今天是最后一天挖煤,我们摸黑挖完煤,准备收工的时候,突然下起了塌方,我被塌方压住了脚,还好我拼命的爬出来保住了性命!我领了一千五的工资回家,终于不用再做这提心吊胆的工作了

9月5日

今天拿着钱到珠宝店买了戒指,后天就是老婆的生日,明天晚上十二点后我要跟老婆求婚,好几天没见到老婆了,好想她哦!

9月6日

今天回到家,老婆也在,我看到她好开心,正准备跟她说我好想她!话还没说,老婆先开口跟我说分手,我的心刺痛着,泪水在眼眶打转,我答应她了,因为我答应过她无论她要求我做什么我都不能说不,即使和她分手我会难过得死掉!老婆打了我一巴掌,然后甩门出去了。

9月7日

今天是老婆的生日,一整天都在想她。晚上我拿起戒指给老婆打了个电话,不管怎样我一定要跟老婆求婚,我要一辈子照顾她!

半路上,戒指从口袋掉出来滚到马路上,我急忙停下车跑过去拣。一辆卡车向我这边飞了过来,我来不及闪开!只觉得眼前一片血色!

不知道过了多久,我醒了过来,旁边站着死神,它告诉我,我已不属于这个世界了。我看到姐姐抱着我血淋淋的尸体失声痛哭。

老婆,我要找老婆,我哀求着死神,它答应我去见老婆半小时。

来到老婆的床边,我抚摸着她的头发,好舍不得离开,我怕自己离开后老婆没人照顾,她该怎么办?

老婆,对不起,我不能照顾你一辈子了!

老婆,你一定要快乐,假如下辈子我还这么薄命,那么我求上天让我早点遇到你!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

爱她,就请给她足够的安全感

跟一位男性朋友聊天,无意中说到他跟妻子分手的话题。朋友神色黯然地说:真的不是我的错,她疑心太重。凭良心说,我算得上一个正派的男人,但她总是不相信我。结婚十年,就吵了四年,日子实在是没法过了。我问:为什么前六年很恩爱,后四年却要吵架呢?他说:后来我下海经商了,生意也做得越来越有起色,交际应酬自然也就免不了,自那以后,她就开始变得越来越不可理喻了。我笑着说:你没看过书上的说法吗,女人是不讲理的动物。有时候,凭良心,辩解都是没有用的,关键的问题是——你有没有给她足够的安全感。


 记得有次看一部电视剧,讲的是这样的故事:魅力四射的男人,同时被两个女人爱上了。巧的是,这两个女人刚好是姐妹俩。姐姐明知道男人爱的是妹妹,但她没有打算放手,并且利用在同一家公司共事的便利条件,寻找一切机会跟男人接触。其实也不能说姐姐有多坏,爱一个人是没有错的,当一个女人发自内心的去爱一个男人时,她自然会从各方面去关心他,很温柔的对待他。男人当然也明白姐姐的意思,他接受了姐姐对他细至入微的好,但也很明确的告诉她:他爱的是妹妹,谢谢她对他所做的一切。

 故事到这里,自然还没有完:一次男人加班没有回家,妹妹满心欢喜给他送饭菜。正打算推门进去,看到了这样一幕——哭得梨花带雨的姐姐,正偎依在男人怀里,男人很爱怜地轻拍着她的后背。妹妹愣了片刻,手里的饭盒掉在了地上,转身疯了一般跑了出去。男人很努力地去追,再然后,争吵、辩解、冷战轮番上演。被折腾得心力交疲的男人说:既然你那么爱我,就应该信任我。她在工作中遇到了麻烦,我安慰一下也是人之常情吧?更何况她是你姐姐?

 话说的的确有几分道理,而且观众也可以证明,男人真的不是因为移情别恋让姐姐靠在他的怀里的。但是这样的证明又有什么用?谁看到那一幕都免不了会起疑心。就算是心情不好,需要安慰,姐姐为什么偏偏选择了这个男人的怀抱,而不是别人的呢?原因很简单:因为姐姐爱他,所以很自然的选择了他,很乐意靠在他的怀里。但让人不解的是:男人还真的心安理得的让她靠了。事后还满脸无辜,仿佛受了天大的冤枉。

 男人的出发点似乎是没有错的,因为怜香惜玉是男人的本能。但是男人怜香惜玉的同时,是不是也应该考虑一下恋人的感受?深更半夜,孤男寡女,温情脉脉的,如此安慰,不发生点故事才真叫意外。

 上面虽然说的只是剧情,但我们也不得不承认,在生活中,也时常会出现这样或是那样的误会,来干扰我们原本风平浪静的生活。电话里,男人说在加班,却意外的被女人碰到他跟一位女同事在西餐厅用餐;本来女人就对男人身边那个看起来风情万种的女秘书不放心,男人却频频带女秘书单独出差;从前两小无猜的初恋情人又找上门来了,男人虽然没有再续前缘的打算,却很热心地为她的事鞍前马后……

 作为女人来讲,在这样一些事情上,她是没有理智去考虑男人的出发点的。她相信自己的眼睛甚过相信男人的辩解。原本都是些可以避免的误会,偏偏男人就让它轻而易举的发生了,想想看,究竟是女人疑心重还是男人表现得太幼维?或是制造状况的那一方带有某种欲拒还迎的私心?

 其实爱情,远远比我们想象的要脆弱得多,经不起太多的误会,也经不起太多的折腾。与其等到误会发生以后,再去焦头烂额的作解释,还不如从一开始就学会在男女关系上避嫌。女人要的,无非就是一份安心。倘若真的爱她,在乎她,就请自觉地给她一份安全感。若是让女人自己去猜,或是亲口提要求,通常事情已经变得相当的糟了。

Saturday, December 18, 2010

如何留住女人那颗璀璨的心

女孩喜欢上了男人,对他很好,是很好的那种。她给他洗衣服,收拾房间,早晨买早点给他,小鸟依人的靠在男人身边。男人觉得有人这样无微不至的照顾是件很惬意的事情,于是他们顺理成章地在一起。男人习惯有女孩在身边的日子,可后来,女孩就离开了,是当男人在睡梦中的时候。

  男人讲完之后一脸茫然的问我:“你说,我哪里做错了!我给她钱买化妆品,有人欺负她,我把那人揍了个半死,我这么爱她,她为什么就走了呢?”

  我安静的听完,没办法给这个疑惑的男人一个满意的答案。我们从咖啡店走出来,过马路时男人瞅一个空挡便快步跑到对面向车流这边的我招手催我过去。我有些无奈的笑了。

  我问男人是不是不愿意牵女孩的手。他说在家抱抱可以,在外面多不好意思啊。我说他过马路时一定比女孩快,他点头说你怎么知道 ?我说女孩在刷碗扫地的时候,他一定是悠闲的看着电视。男人摸着头说自己似乎明白了。我说,如果明白了就去挽回吧。

  希望男人是真的明白了。

  其实很多女人外表很坚强,内心却还是柔弱,需要男人呵护的。她不在乎你给了她多钱,却会永远记得你调皮的从路边花坛偷回的那朵放到她手中的月季花。她在厨房忙碌的时候,你从身后送来的一个吻会让她觉得幸福甜蜜。你们过马路时候,在左边的你紧紧握住她的手,不论是什么年纪,都会让她觉得安全。

  世界上女人很多,美丽的、温柔的、聪明的、可爱的……可无论什么类型的女人,期待幸福的心情都是一样的。所以她们等待着一个 男人的出现,等着这个男人对她们好。

  其实女人期待的对自己好,是件很简单的事情。

  她只希望自己的男人不要因为忙碌而忘记她的生日。想听他在耳边轻声说句“快乐吧,我的宝贝。”这时玫瑰也可以省略。她只希望做家务累的时候,他轻轻抚摩自己的额头说声“宝贝,喝了牛奶再睡吧。”即使对于家务男人一窍不通。她只希望害怕或者孤单的时候,男人在身边搂着她的肩膀坚定地对她说“别怕,有我。”

  是的,有的时候,爱意是在不经意间流露的。可能男人你自己没感觉,可是女人却字一句地记在了心底。她们会用更多的爱恋回报你 。

  尝试着在出门之前吻一下你的女人。常常温存的告诉她,你有多么的爱她。休息的时候抢过她手里要洗的衣物。天气好的时候带她到公园散步。睡觉前给她讲讲公司里,回家路上看到的有趣的事情。偶尔耐心倾听女人讲的事情,即使你对白菜5角或是4角一斤不感兴趣。在她穿了新裙子的时候,认真的看2分钟,然后诚心夸奖一下她。如果裙子大了,就说你又苗条了,如果裙子小了,就说如果大一点会更漂亮。逛街的时候可以拉着女人的手或者揽着她的肩膀,因为这样,她会觉得幸福。女人都希望在平凡中被呵护,被爱着。你温存的点点滴滴一定能让她闻到幸福的芳香。其实女人要的幸福很简单。你要耐心的对你的女人好,不需要如火山火热,也不需要如海浪汹涌,细水长流就足够让她幸福一辈子。

  一个黄昏,我接到那个男人的电话。他很兴奋地告诉我,说女孩又回到了他身边。我问他是怎么做的,他说费了很大力气才约到女孩散步,还专挑路口走。过马路时候站在女孩左边,紧紧握住她的手。我笑了,说你现在明白了吧。男人嘿嘿的说:“明白了,明白了,她跟我,是需要我疼的。”

  是啊,当上帝用亚当的肋骨造了一个夏娃时,就预示着男人该认真照顾身边那个是自己身上肋骨变的女子,好好爱她吧,否则你自己 的胸口也是会疼痛的。

  女人,是用来疼的!!

亲爱的,我们来做个约定好吗?即使爱情平淡了,也不要说分手。。

爱是一种奇怪的东西,忽闪忽灭间的深刻,成长在彼此心里

最美丽的故事没有结局,最浪漫的感情没有归宿,最幸福的
爱情没有言语,最深刻的喜欢没有空间!
爱情也不完美,但是却有彼此心灵间的默契.让彼此感受到
,爱在滋长!

“我爱你”也就不那么空空的了!

想你是一种甜蜜的忧伤,想你是一种酸涩的期待,想你是一
种幸福的惆怅,想你是一种矛盾的向往!
思念也不完美,但是思念却是一种迷离的希望!让彼此更明
白彼此是控制不了的牵挂!

记得有句话``因为想一个人而寂寞.因为爱一个人而温柔
.但是`还好,寂寞的时候我可以想你!温柔的时候因为有
一个梦需要执着而坚强.

其实,有你,真好!

爱是一种付出,即使痛苦也会觉得甘愿.
爱是一种直着,即使心碎也会觉得无悔.
我不知道是不是所有人都会为用生命去保卫自己的爱情!但
是我相信爱情的力量!

有些时候,爱`真的说不出来!
有些时候,爱`就是望着你忽然泪留满面!

所以`你要原谅!如果我说不出那句“我爱你”,不是我不
爱你!而是我真的很爱你!爱到只听的到自己的心跳!

所以`你要理解!当我望着你莫名其妙流下眼泪,不是你做
错什么,不是我无理取闹!是我真的很爱你!爱到看着你也
可以掉下幸福的眼泪!所以你要抱着我!因为我真的很怕失
去你!

如果我总缠着你,请不要说我不乖!请不要对我生气!因为
我真的很珍惜和你的每分每秒!哪怕明明相隔两地`哪怕只
是在电话中相聚!因为在乎每一次小小意义上的分离!
如果我不会总缠着你,请不要以为我舍得和你说再见了!你
不懂我那一瞬间的失落,是多么想伸出手去抓住你!你要明
白正是为了爱,才悄悄的收起对你的依赖!

也许有一天我们都会埋怨!
也许有一天我们都会犯错!
也许有一天我们都会忽视今天的诺言!
也许有一天我们也会吵架!
...

我们来做个约定好吗?
约好即使吵架也不可以不接听彼此的电话!
约好即使吵架也不可以不好好照顾自己!
约好即使吵架也不可以轻易说分手!
约好即使吵架也不可以伤害自己!
约好即使吵架也不可以错过了...
约好,吵架的时候告诉自己:

错误是短暂的,错过却是永远遗憾的...

爱情`有时候很脆弱!
脆弱到容不下一点点沙!
爱情`有时候很顽强!
顽强到什么也分不开相爱的人!

如果有一天,我们不在任性的不理会一切!
如果有一天,我们不在要求时时都粘在一起!
如果有一天,我们不在傻傻的看着对方微笑!
如果有一天,我们不在不理会柴米油盐!
如果有一天,我们不在是任性的两个小孩!
如果有一天,我们习惯了彼此埋怨...

请不要说“分手吧,祝你快乐!”

因为这一天更应该说 “我们结婚吧,让我照顾你一辈子”。。。

Sunday, December 12, 2010

珍惜

有一對小情侶 他們在一起的時間說長不長 說短亦不短


那男生開始希望能在外面尋找一點點新鮮感

也有種想跟別的異性曖昧的感覺

所以他都跟新結交的異性朋友說他沒有女朋友

結果令一位女生愛上了他

男孩的女朋友知道了 當然很傷心 哭得快要崩潰了

因為沒有一個愛自己的女孩願意看到自己的男朋友跟別人混得很熟

更何況是搞曖昧?







於是 女孩有一個想法, 就是跟男孩來一個協議

說他們最後必定會在一起, 對方更會是終生伴侶

但是在結婚之前,

他們可以各自有不同的伴侶 或跟不同的人曖昧

女孩雖然不忍心,

可是這樣做男方在婚前能夠滿足自己要求不斷新鮮的感覺,

而女方亦可以在不同男性的個性中了解怎樣在能對他最好,

為作為一個賢淑溫柔的好老婆做準備

即使這只是一個自欺欺人的想法,

她亦為男孩打算得周到

可是, 他們的將來有誰能確定?

有誰肯定他們的愛不會改變?



有一位朋友說:這樣的確是一個好提議!

說的是一為花心的男生.



有人說:怎可以這樣呢? 如果一個男人真的愛一個女人,

他不該,也不會到處找尋新鮮感,

也許男性是需要不斷有新鮮感,

但我相信愛能使他堅定自己,為所愛的人而努力,

去維持一段可以缺少新鮮感的感情.





又有人說:每個人也有佔有慾,

有誰樂意看到自己的情人別人親密

這和一腳踏兩船沒兩樣吧

這樣做他們兩人根本已經不愛對方了!





的確,這個協議也許很荒謬,

這女孩亦被無數的朋友說她太傻了

但男孩也的確令她失去了安全感,

恍惚連信任他的力氣量也所剩無幾了....

她為男孩付出所有,換來的卻是一瓶瓶的淚水.



真愛一個人,會用盡你的方法去遷就他,

即使他做的是錯了, 也會接受並且體諒.

一個好男人是 做錯了懂得哄回對方,而且努力去改進

情侶間最重要的 就是信任

而信任也是要從溝通裡一點一滴累積的,更要多加包容對方,

只要相方也想維持彼此之間的關係.

有了愛 困難的考驗並不算什麼

讓我們一起祝福這對小情人能夠誇過這關口,

男孩能夠改過,給予女孩更多的安全感

懂得珍惜女孩對他的無微不至的愛 使女孩的危機感減少

而女孩亦給予男孩多一點信心,

畢竟改變 也是需要別人支持啊:)

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

一日曹操和刘备喝酒论英雄。二人小酌了几杯,刘备忽然放了个响屁,十分尴尬。正窘迫时,只听身后关羽坦然地说道:“诸位莫见怪,屁从羽(雨)中来!”


关羽话音刚落,一旁的赵云跨前一步,道:“诸位莫见怪,屁从云中来!”

赵云刚刚说罢,张飞又接着叫道:“方才一响屁,屁是飞来的!”

大家一阵哈哈大笑。刘备也已恢复常态。

曹操没有笑,他对此事深有感触。送走刘备等人后,曹操对部下们说道:“刘备的属下,一见主公有个闪失,都争先恐后抢着承担和弥补,真可谓忠心耿耿。此事要是轮到尔等,能够办到吗?”

众人都忿忿不平,均想:“不就是个屁事,这有何难!”

过了几天,曹操又请刘备喝酒,席间他想放个屁,看看部下反应如何。憋了半天,终于硬憋出个小屁。众人早已等候多时,听到&l dquo;咕”的一声,大将许褚连忙抢先喊道:“屁是褚(猪)放的!”

侍中王朗紧跟着说道:“屁是朗(狼)放的!”

曹操一听瞪起眼来,其他人以为曹操嫌自己缓慢,都抢着往自己身上揽,夏侯敦争着道:“屁是敦(蹾)出来的!”

“不对!”徐晃听了大声反驳,“屁是晃出来的!”

荀攸说道:“屁是攸(悠)来的!”

满宠说道:“屁是宠(冲)来的!”

蒋济说道:“屁是济(挤)来的!”

郭图说道:“屁是图(吐)来的!”

钟繇说道:“屁是繇(摇)来的!”

接着....

牛金:“屁是金(金)的!”

曹洪:“屁是洪(红)的!”

张南:“屁是南(蓝)的!”

...........

曹操早已面红耳赤,正要发怒。

谋士郭嘉嚷道:“都不对,都不对!大家说的不对!”.....不愧是我排名第一的军师。曹操暗暗想到。

郭嘉接着说道:“屁是嘉(夹)出来的!”

刘备一等人已笑的东倒西歪........

曹操气的昏过去了

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

What For?

Friday, December 3, 2010

那就一起迷路啦

Thursday, December 2, 2010

恐怖份子和女人有什麼不同?

1. 一個可以談條件、一個不可以




2.恐怖份子明確地告訴你他們要什麼,女人總是要你猜她們要什麼



3.恐怖份子會跟你談判,而你不能跟女人談判



4.恐怖份子會殺害人質,但是女人不會這樣做,她們只會綁架人質一輩子



5.遇到恐怖份子,你只有死路一條。遇到女人,你會活在十八層地獄〔生不如死〕



6.恐怖份子用別人來談條件,女人用自己來談條件



7.跟恐怖份子談判,贖金可能越談越少。跟女人談判,要花的錢可能越談越多(沒有籌碼的話還是少談為妙 )



8.談判中你可能可以找一堆人和警察來抓恐怖份子,可是通常女人會找一堆人和警察來找你麻煩



9. 女人把褲襪穿在腳上,恐怖份子把褲襪套在頭上

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

原来那个虫咬的苹果叫爱情!

他和她是大学同学,也是一对恋人,是让同学们很羡慕的一对儿。他们很相爱,那时候他很穷,手上也没几个钱,她最喜欢吃苹果,他就跑市场上给她买让虫咬的苹果,被虫咬的苹果很便宜。苹果上布满虫子咬过的小窟窿,像长满了可爱的小眼睛。他也想买好的,但好的太贵了。
  当他把让虫咬的苹果送到她跟前的时候,她很生气,认为他也太小气了,买这么孬的苹果,让她在同学面前没有面子。他笑着说,带虫眼的苹果没打农药,说着,就拿把水果刀把那些虫眼全部仔细地挖掉。然后,他开始削苹果皮,削得很认真很执著。她看得愣住了,因他竟然能把苹果皮削得很长,薄得像面片,一直削到最后都没断开。当他把一个削好的给她时,根本就看不出来苹果让虫咬过,苹果都像脱了一层外衣一样。
  后来,她渐渐地迷恋上了让他削苹果。因她喜欢看他削苹果的样子,像是在制作一件艺术品。一次学校搞文艺活动,他给同学们表演了削苹果。当他把一条薄薄长长的苹果皮拉开的时候。全场的同学们都惊愕住了。同学们向他提出疑问,为什么能把一个苹果削这么好?他简单地回答:“用心和爱去削。”全场的同学立即爆出热烈的掌声。
  后来,他们大学毕业了。两人为了留在这座美丽的城市里,拼命地找工作,很快都找到了合适的工作。那时候他在为事业拼搏,很劳累很繁忙,他陪她的时间自然就少了,只有晚上才有机会聚在租来的小屋里。晚上,他总是一头就躺在了床上,很疲惫的样子。她让他削个苹果,他苦笑着说:“我明天还要上班呢!睡吧!”她感觉他不怎么爱她了,就常常回忆起大学的时光,回忆起他给她削苹果的情景。她有了一种空空荡荡的感觉,怪怪的。
  他很快在公司里发展起来,每天都有很多的业务,日子过得忙忙碌碌。有时他也出差,去很远的城市,一连几天不回来。他不在的日子,她有点寂寞和失落。这个时候,她的上司走近了她。上司是一个成熟稳健的中年男人,他的魅力把她吸引了。上司常常给她买很多的苹果,都是非常好的那种,没有虫眼,皮很光滑,也不需要削。她感动了,终于在一次偶然的机会,她出轨了。事后,她感觉自己对不起他,懊悔不已,恨自己不该这么冲动。
  他出差回来,她把自己的不忠告诉了他。她想好了,他要是不肯原谅她,就和他分手,因她不想再欺骗他的感情。他知道了这件事情,沉默了半晌说:“我给你削个苹果吧!”他拿了一个满是虫眼的苹果开始削,先仔细地把虫眼一个个挖去,然后开始削皮。她看着他削苹果,想到了初恋,想到了校园,想到了和他在一起的美好日子。更让她想不到的是,他给苹果削皮依然是那么熟练那么专注,当他把一个削好的苹果递给她时,说:“我们不能因为苹果有了一个小小的虫眼,就把它扔掉,那样的话,就太可惜了啊!一个果实毕竟经历了开花、授粉,才有了这个果实,不容易!我们尽快削掉虫眼,依然可以吃。”

Saturday, November 27, 2010

How Men fall in love?

The most asked questions by women of all ages is:” Is he is in love with me?” I have a difficult take on what is “love” and what is not?




Romantic attraction and sexual chemistry happens for a majority of men in three stages and in real life,Even if the process of “falling in love” happens to us in only in two stages, it is actually much more difficult for us women to “fall in love” than it is for men. I am sure, this is news for some women, and even hard to believe others . So let me try to explain how easy it is to increase chemistry with a man if you know what you are working with and what you are up against.



1. The first stage of “falling in love” for a man is instant: fast and furious

Unknown to a majority of women, men fall in love at first sight even more frequently than do women. Research shows that within the first fifteen seconds, a women will have decided( sub-consciously) if she will give a guy a chance to try to” make her fall in love” or not. In the same amount of time, a man will have decided if he is “turned” on by how a woman looks or not.

While women use visual, emotions and safety (including financial) cues to assess a man’s desirability, over 90% of a man’s decision at this stage is purely based on visual cues. When his eyes lock on to women for the first time, they lock on to her visual presentation. Whatever he recognize as” suited to carry on his gene, and legacy”, that’s what he focuses on, admiring and lingering on its details. Some men get super glued on boobs, others on booties and others on legs etc. Physical features and bouncy behavior that suggests youth, health and vitality place one woman ahead of all the other pack. And if you are attentive and not trying to delude yourself or force a relationship to happen, you will know when a man is visually attracted to you. He Will Tell You- in very specific verbs and he simply can’t take his eyes off you!

Keep in mind that at this first stage, its just pure sexual chemistry. At this stage you are still dispensable and interchangeable. You’re still just another woman in the pack, and he is still very much attracted to several other women at the same time. How physically attractive a man finds you determines how much time he’ll want to spend with you, and later in the relationship “looks” confirm to him again and again why he finds you attractive. If a man is not physically attracted to you, trying to make him “fall in love” with you is like trying to wake up a dead horse you see and believe what you want to see and believe.



2. The second stage of “falling in love” for a man is when he begins to see you as unique and special

He may still be visually attracted to other women and you may be the women with the “less than perfect” body but there is just “something about you”- and it is driving him nuts. It can be the way you talk or the way you laugh or the way you think or your enthusiasm and passion, or whatever it is you do that makes him think you must feel more deeply and experience life more profoundly and therefore you must be more delightful to be with. At this stage, he pays more attention to your needs, spends more time with you and is over protective when other men try to make a move on “his women”.



3. The third stage of “falling in love” for a man is when he has convinced himself that he is a happier and more fulfilled person with you in his life than when by himself

He feels he is with the right women at the right time, and at this stage, you will not even be asking the question “Is he in love with me?” because you will know. He will have No problem declaring to you how he really feels. He might not always use the words, “I Love You”, but he manages to get his point across. Keep in mind that in this age and time “settle down” does not necessarily mean marriage to all people but it simply means “I AM WITH THE ONE”. This feeling of “I AM WITH THE ONE” is not the same thing as when he feels he “needs” you.

You will do yourself great favour if right now, here and today, you decide to exercise your power of choice to have what you want and to stop wasting time, emotions and energy on going-no-where relationships.

How to spice up a dull and boring relationship

We get so involved with life, work and our own individual lives that we forget about our loved one and take him for granted. It becomes very important for you to take efforts to maintain the spark in your love life to make it interesting and enjoyable rather than dull and boring.




As your relationship starts to grow, it becomes monotonous and boring. Don’t panic each one of us have to face this at one point or the other in life. Here are a few tips that will help you spice up your relationship:

• Communication is the best to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Never carry on a relationship just for the heck of it. Talk out the problems you facing with your partner. Plan out and spent time with your partner to discuss the various issues.

• When the both of you come home from work always give each other a hug. This gesture of yours will make them feel loved and wanted and also that you are always there by their side. Show him your support.

• Boredom may also occur when you are spending too much time with your partner. Try and give space in your relationship. Never loose your own identity when you are in a relationship. Too often in a relationship we forget ourselves and try and imbibe the other person’s likes and dislikes. Do things which you like to do individually.

• Keep gifting things to each other. Giving non occasional gifts to each other will help you maintain the charm in your relation.

• You can also gift him things that would remind him of your first few dates together. Writing love letters might also be another innovative way to bring back the spice.

• To spice up your relationship with your partner you should always try something different and unique which he would never expect from you.

• To make your love life more exciting, take out some time and take a long vacation with your beloved so that you can fall in love with him all over again.

• Compliment your partner often to show him that you still notice him and also appreciate him for his achievements.

• You can join a dance class with your partner to spend time together and to relax with each other.

• Work on your appearance. Give yourself a different look.

If you really want to bring back spark and charm in your life go out of your way in expressing your love for him.



We get so involved with life, work and our own individual lives that we forget about our loved one and take him for granted. It becomes very important for you to take efforts to maintain the spark in your love life to make it interesting and enjoyable rather than dull and boring.

As your relationship starts to grow, it becomes monotonous and boring. Don’t panic each one of us have to face this at one point or the other in life. Here are a few tips that will help you spice up your relationship:

• Communication is the best to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Never carry on a relationship just for the heck of it. Talk out the problems you facing with your partner. Plan out and spent time with your partner to discuss the various issues.

• When the both of you come home from work always give each other a hug. This gesture of yours will make them feel loved and wanted and also that you are always there by their side. Show him your support.

• Boredom may also occur when you are spending too much time with your partner. Try and give space in your relationship. Never loose your own identity when you are in a relationship. Too often in a relationship we forget ourselves and try and imbibe the other person’s likes and dislikes. Do things which you like to do individually.

• Keep gifting things to each other. Giving non occasional gifts to each other will help you maintain the charm in your relation.

• You can also gift him things that would remind him of your first few dates together. Writing love letters might also be another innovative way to bring back the spice.

• To spice up your relationship with your partner you should always try something different and unique which he would never expect from you.

• To make your love life more exciting, take out some time and take a long vacation with your beloved so that you can fall in love with him all over again.

• Compliment your partner often to show him that you still notice him and also appreciate him for his achievements.

• You can join a dance class with your partner to spend time together and to relax with each other.

• Work on your appearance. Give yourself a different look.

If you really want to bring back spark and charm in your life go out of your way in expressing your love for him.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

What Would You Do If The Internet Was Destroyed?


A long time ago, in a place that might seem like another dimension, the internet did not yet exist. It was a sad place, a grim world where conversations took place over the telephone and in person. It was a place where people had to keep up the pretenses of being polite, respectable people, lest they be viewed as angry, raving lunatics. And as for information? Well, it moved slowly. So slowly, in fact, that documents were moved in things called envelopes and driven on trucks to their destination. Sounds like the damn dark ages, doesn't it?




Really though, what would happen to the world today if the Internet was suddenly yanked out from under us? I'm not asking what things would be like if it never existed, either. I want to know what so many internet-reliant people would do when faced with a sudden, permanent loss of instantaneous communication.



I've got a few predictions:



1. The global economy would take a massive, MASSIVE hit. I'm no economic forecaster, of course, but it doesn't take a number-cruncher to recognize the how many companies are reliant on the web to make their profit. Millions would be out of work, and IT workers would find a major part of their expertise circling the drain.



2. There would likely be a sudden pregnancy boom. With so many people finding that their favorite web hobbies are no longer available to them, it's realistic to think that people might start spending more quality time with their significant other's. Additionally, with the inevitable collapse of the pr0n industry, people will have to try harder to stay carnally satisfied, leading everyone to new relationships and lower expectations. Clicking and wanking will no longer be a replacement for a girlfriend.



3. Support groups would spring up overnight. Facebook withdrawal, coupled with numerous other forms of detox symptoms brought on by internetlessness will bring the weak-spirited to their knees. The mantra "Hi, my name is [blank], and I lost all my [insert social network here] friends." will be repeated thousands upon thousands of times. Pills will be popped, alcohol consumed, and coping will ensue. It will be a long, hard process for many.



4. Slowly but surely, people will stop acting like assholes. The internet has always had the unique ability to turn people who would normally be smiling, polite citizens into malicious morons with nothing better to do than berate their fellow man for a difference of opinion. The slower pace of information may also serve to keep people's nerves below boiling point. Without the barrier of anonymity that the internet provides, incidences of flaming should dissipate quickly and be left to the only place it really ever belonged anyway: Congress.



5. Obesity will gradually decline. Usage of the internet also involves a great deal of sit-on-your-ass-itis, which means that without it, people will begin to use their legs more often and slowly venture outdoors again. Computers will still be useful for various activities, of course, but the idea of getting up to smell the roses will take hold more easily without the addictive lure of the web.



What would you do, or what do you think would happen if the internet were suddenly gone?



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Thursday, November 18, 2010

你說我變質了


我在沙上,埋下了這個貼著逾期標籤的玻璃瓶。


連同已變質的自己,一同埋下......



剛開始的時候,你說我很尊重你,什麼事也先問過你。

現在,你卻說我沒有主見。



剛開始的時候,你說我待你很溫柔,已經十分罕有。

現在,你卻說我陰柔寡斷。



剛開始的時候,你說我很緊張你,對你的小事也著緊。

現在,你卻說我神經過敏。



剛開始的時侯,你說我很幽默,常逗得你捧腹大笑。

現在,你卻叫我別再以為自己的冷笑話可笑。



剛開始的時侯,你說我不是笨,而是單純。

現在,你卻問我怎麼愚不可及。



剛開始的時候,你說我好得近乎完美。

現在,你卻說我一無事處。



昨天,

你說我變質了,

你說從前的我已不在,

你說......我迫你離開了。



今天,

我終於知道,

對你而言,我有限定的保鮮期。

逾期了,我只是變質了、沒有價值的商品......



剩下的,只這一堆「剛開始」。

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Improve your memory and feed your brain =)

Would you like to improve memory and feed your brain with special brain foods to feel and act younger? The proper foods have an amazing way of protecting against age related illnesses. Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Getting older and getting forgetful? Do you forget your husband's name and instead call him by the dog's name? Are you worried about Alzheimers or senility catching up as you age? If you answered yes to any of these questions, read on for ideas to improve memory and feed your belly with natural brain foods to increase brain function and overall health.

EAT FISH:

One of the best foods to help improve memory is fish, not only for its iodine content, but also for the fatty acids found in the form of Omega 3. The fattier the fish the better. Eat tuna, salmon, mackerel and sardines. Omega 3 helps to protect the brain, improve memory and aids in overall function. Iodine not only feeds the brain but also the thyroid helping to maintain metabolism and general good health. Iodine is found in sea salt and iodized salt and in all forms of seaweed or kelp. Here's justification for eating out at those expensive and delicious Japanese restaurants and eating lots of sushi! Just tell your spouse you want to improve memory and eat brain foods when you go to eat out.

INCORPORATE FLAX SEEDS AND FLAX SEED OIL:

Flax seed and flax seed oil is extremely high in omega 3 fatty acids and consuming these tiny seeds will give your brain a huge boost to improve memory. Best to buy and grind your own at the time you want to add them to your recipes. Pick up an inexpensive coffee bean grinder and use only for herbs and spices and of course flax seed. Whir in the grinder for a minute and sprinkle on your cereal, veggies, mix with rice or soup. Just about everything tastes good with flax see including mixing freshly ground flax into your smoothies, so feed your brain with brain food.

EAT BERRIES AND RED FOODS:

Fruits and vegetables improve memory and help support the human system in a variety of ways. Antioxidants aid the body in circulation as well as protecting against cancer and other diseases of aging. Eat berries, especially blueberries, asparagus, kale, sweet potatoes and black currants to improve memory. Red foods help increase circulation to the brain like tomatoes, strawberries, cherries and radish and can also aid to improve memory.

USE GINSENG:

Two funny sounding but potent herbs are the king and queen of memory boosting products on the market. Ginseng is an ancient Chinese herb whose root grows into what looks like the human form. It's been used in Chinese medicine for centuries and is a mainstay for use in helping to balance and sustain proper hormone production in the body, improve memory and feed the brain. Without the correct hormonal balance the brain becomes stressed and begins to rebel against natural activities seeking rest and rejuvenation. This powerful adaptogen helps the brain and the body regain proper stasis.

INCORPORATE GINKO BILOBA IN YOUR DIET:

And Ginko Biloba, is also a powerful Chinese herb known to aid increased circulation enhancing blood flow to the brain and improve memory. An excellent brain food, the staying power of Gingko is quite remarkable. It is said that after the nuclear bombings in Japan at the end of World War II, the only thing left standing in the wake of the horror were the Gingko trees. Gingko leaves are mirror images of one another and look similar to two hearts attached at the center giving mind to the herbs' use as a circulatory stimulant.

ADD OLIVE OIL TO YOUR DIET:

Remember to use olive oil, high in omega fatty acids 3 and 6 and polyunsaturated. This wonderful, life-giving oil will improve memory and support your system in many ways. Our bodies need healthy fats to aid nerves to function properly. Be sure it is cold pressed olive oil. Adding heat destroys much of the goodness found in this well known brain food.

REMEMBER TO TAKE VITAMIN B12:

Improve memory with a daily dose of vitamin B brain food, especially B12. Well known in its use to increase circulation and sooth frazzled nerve fibers, this panacea to life's daily aggravations will offer huge relief when taken regularly and in the proper dosage.

POUR ON THE HONEY:

And last but not least, to add to life's sweetness and improve memory, include natural honey in your diet. Studies have shown it aids in decreasing anxiety, increasing calm that helps us to sleep better and improve memory during ageing. Honey is found to have antioxidants which also help to prevent free radicals from damaging cell growth. There are a great many types of honey to choose from, something to please every taste palate. Have a teaspoon or two right before going to bed and sleep like a baby while digesting the sweetest brain food.

梁静茹-可惜不是你

Thursday, November 11, 2010

離別令人學懂心痛

「真的沒有可能了嗎?」我說道。「沒有」是我預期的答案。




從褲袋拿出介指和項鏈在她面前憤怒地拋出大海是我為她最後做的事。



「沒有話說了嗎?」她平靜地轉身而走,那天起我失去了一年零七個月的初戀女友,感覺就像失去一切。



從此電話裡頭再沒有她的來電,但我仍無時無刻地期待著電話響起的一刻是顯示她的名字。



曾經想過要死緾難打把她搶回來,但心知是沒有用的,也不像我的作風。



沒有她後的日子只有和「行屍走肉」這成語為伴,想著過去,亦活在過去。



唯一得到的只有活了二十年從未在心裡出現過的痛。從分手一刻開始不斷累積,一次又一次。



放下從前的初戀開始了另一段感情,亦同樣的不告而別。不一樣的人,卻是一樣的結局。



如果戀愛是練愛的過程;那麼離別後就是要練痛。



離別的確令人學懂心痛,朋友,你的痛還在嗎?

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

我不配

[一个男人深深的爱着一个女人]

烛光晚餐。桌两边,坐了男人和女人。




“我喜欢你。”女人一边摆弄着手里的酒杯,一边淡淡的说着。



“我有老婆。”男人摸着自己的手上的戒指。



“我不在乎,我只想知道,你的感觉。你,喜欢我嘛?”



意料中的答案。男人抬起头,打量着对面的女人。



24岁,年轻,有朝气,相当不错的年纪。



白皙的皮肤,充满活力的身体,一双明亮的,会说话的眼睛。



真是不错的女孩啊,可惜。



“如果你也喜欢我,我不介意作你的情人。”女人终于等不下去,追加了一句。



“我爱我妻子。”?男人坚定的回答。



“你爱她?爱她什么?现在的她,应该已经年老色衰,见不得人了吧。



否则,公司的晚宴,怎么从来不见你带她来……”



女人还想继续,可接触到男人冷冷的目光后,打消了念头。



静……



“你喜欢我什么?”男人开口了。



“成熟,稳重,动作举止很有男人味,懂得关心人,很多很多。反正,和我之前见过的人不同。你很特别。”



“你知道三年前的我,什么样子?”男人点了颗烟。



“不知道。我不在乎,即使你坐过牢。”



“三年前,我就是你现在眼里的那些普通男人。”男人没理会女人,继续说。



“普通大学毕业,工作不顺心,整天喝酒,发脾气。对女孩子爱理不理,靠**来发泄自己的欲求不满。还因为去夜总会找小姐,被**抓过。”



那怎么?”女人有了兴趣,想知道是什么,让男人转变的。“因为她?”



“嗯。”



“她那个人,好像总能很容易就能看到事情的内在。教我很多东西,让我别太计较得失;别太在乎眼前的事;让我尽量待人和善。那时的我在她面前,就像少不更事的孩子。也许那感觉,就和现在你对我的感觉差不多。那时真的很奇怪,倔脾气的我,只是听她的话。按照她说的,接受现实,知道自己没用,就努力工作。那年年底,工作上,稍微有了起色,我们结婚了。”



男人弹了弹烟灰,继续说着。



“那时,真是苦日子。两个人,一张床,家里的家具,也少的可怜。知道吗?结婚一年,我才给她买了第一颗钻戒,存了大半年的钱呢。当然,是背着她存的。若她知道了,是肯定不让的。”



“那阵子,烟酒弄得身体不好。大冬天的,她每天晚上睡前还要给我熬汤喝。那味道,也只有她做得出。”



男人沉醉于那回忆里,忘记了时间,只是不停的讲述着往事。



而女人,也丝毫没有打扰的意思,就静静地听着。



等男人注意到时间,已经晚上10点了。



“啊,对不起,没注意时间,已经这么晚了。”男人歉意的笑了笑。



“现在,你可以理解嘛?我不可能,也不会,作对不起她的事。”



“啊,知道了。输给这样子的人,心服口服咯。”女人无奈地摇了摇头。“不过我到了她的年纪,会更棒的。”



“嗯。那就可以找到更好的男人。不是吗?



很晚了,家里的汤要冷了,我送你回去。”男人站起身,想送女人。



“不了,我自己回去可以了。”女人摆了摆手。“回去吧,别让她等急了。”



男人会心的笑了笑,转身要走。



“她漂亮嘛?”



“。。。。。。。。。。。。。。嗯,很美。”



男人的身影消失在夜色中,留下女人,对着蜡烛。发呆。



男人回到家,推开门,径直走到卧室,打开了台灯。



沿着床边,坐了下来。



“老婆,已经第四个了。干吗让我变成这么好,好多人喜欢我呀。搞不好,我会变心呀。干吗把我变成这么好,自己却先走了?我,我一个人,好孤单呀。”



男人哽咽的说着,终于泣不成声。



眼泪,一滴滴的从男人的脸颊流下,打在手心里的相框上。昏暗的灯光中,旧照片里,弥漫着的,是已逝女子,淡淡的温柔。

Monday, November 1, 2010

5 More College Idiots

A few months back, I created, not one, but two lists of the type of moronic characters that are so easily found on most college campuses. Sure, I could have kept the list down to the five most visible, most broad stereotypes, but just as people are diverse, so are idiots. There are so many different flavors of stupidity and aggravation, that it's hard not to dish on every single one.




Therefore, I felt it was time to expand the list once again. After all, it's not just the pranksters or the overly studious that annoy us to no end and prevent us from sleeping, no — it's practically everybody! Well...almost.





-The Know-It-All, Hippie Philosophy Student - I have a lot of respect for people who study philosophy, really, I do. Though I can't imagine what they intend to do with their degree once they get it, the research and reading they have to do is difficult and requires a lot of patience. That said, some of them are also the most annoying people on the planet.

They think they see the futility in things like exercise and eating smart, and wonder why people bother to get up before noon. They then stay up all night reading books with extremely small print and scribbling in their tiny moleskin notebooks, taking short breaks only to mooch pot off the guys upstairs and to cook egg sandwiches. When they finally wake up the following day, they tell you about the revelation they had while you were asleep. You then proceed to face-palm yourself.



-The Guitar Guy - While it can be a chore to live with the musically obsessed, it's potentially even worse to live with someone who's got six strings and a story to tell. They want everybody to know who they are, and that they can give Jimmy Page a run for his money. Forget partying, this guy'll shred from dusk to dawn, taking breaks only to piss and vainly attempt to find people who want to jam. He'll claim to be in love with his instrument and claim that "Women are irrelevant", that is, until one shows even the slightest interest in his craft.



[...guilty as charged.]



-Mr. OneUpsMan - This one's real simple. No matter what you've done in your life, this guy's done it too, but better. You went base jumping? He went skydiving...without a chute. You've slept with five women? He's slept with ten. You took a huge dump this morning? He shat two solid gold bricks. That's just the way it goes with this guy. If you find you can't ignore him, though, the best thing to do is call his bluff. Tell him about how gonorrhriffic your urine's been lately (a lie, obviously...I should hope.)and see how long it takes him to start pissing fire.



-The Girl That Won't Leave - So one of your roommates has befriended a girl from the dorm building across the quad. She's decided that you and your band of misfits are the absolute raddest dudes ever and has made it her solemn duty to become one with the douchebaggery. Except, she's overly bubbly, just a little clueless and doesn't know when she's overstayed her welcome. She'll insert herself into situations where she doesn't belong, take up space and generally just get in the way. Solution? Start locking the door and having everyone screen their calls.



-The Girl That Takes Partying Too Seriously - For some, she's a blessing. For most, she's a curse. She's at every single one of your parties, and she's makes sure to be the loudest, most obnoxious, most visible one there. She's in every picture, had at least one shot of everything available, but probably more, and has made a move on nearly every guy in attendance, and at least two or three girls. Clothes are just a hindrance to her, and she'll have sex on your bed or hump someone in your hallway without a second thought. The worst part — there's no way to stop her. You just have to wait until she's tired herself out or the booze has dried up.



What other kinds of college idiots are there?

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Thrifty, Cheap or Freeloader?

With the economy hitting people hard, thrifty is no longer a bad word, and it’s become a valued characteristic in a future partner for many people who are realizing that overspending today can lead to going broke tomorrow. Of course in good or bad financial times there are those men that are always those people that are just plain cheap, or even those that are all take and fall into the freeloader category.




So where do we draw these lines among thrifty, cheap and the dreaded freeloader? Let’s take a look at some of the most common money related love dilemmas that are being posted on LuvemOrLeavem and how to determine which category these problems fall into. To be fair to the guys, there are plenty of women out there that use men as a personal piggy bank, so when a man says enough to these women, he is well within his rights to tell her that the spending has got to stop.



Who pays for the date and how much should it cost? Based on other posts about dating and who should pay, most of my readers felt that the person who is doing the asking should pay. Most people also felt that after several dates that the woman should also expect to pay for some of the dates. This is where things seem to get tricky, especially if the woman makes more than the man.



I don’t have a problem with either one paying, but I do think that whoever suggests a very expensive date should be the one to pay for that date unless the person who asked made it clear that money was not an issue when it came to choosing where they would go. I don’t think that merely being the one to ask for the date should put you on the hook for paying for a restaurant that has 5 dollar signs after its listing. On the flip side, if his idea of a date is taking you to a place where they ask if you want to “supersize it” then yes, he is being cheap.



Scaling back on the big day- This current is economy is proving to be very stressful for couples that are planning weddings. Like the dating scenarios, the person who wants to do the spending often thinks that the person who wants to scale back on spending is being cheap. Couples are looking at cutting back on everything from engagement rings to the actual cost of the wedding, and sometimes it’s hard not to feel that this means that this all important day is being given less importance.



For this one, I think that the big key is if these cutbacks are in line with cutting back on other aspects of your lifestyle. For example, if he’s already cutting back on his spending and you get a diamond that is smaller than what you envisioned, then that is perfectly fine. It used to be common that couples started out with a small engagement ring that they would upgrade at a later anniversary. The assumption was that there would be a lifetime of anniversaries to upgrade, so it’s rather romantic when you look at it that way. Of course, if he has money for a big screen TV and an Italian sportscar and he can’t find the cash for the kind of ring that you would like then that is a whole different story.



All take and no give- Even if he does tend to lean more towards the cheap side than the thrifty side, that doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. He may seem to have plenty or money now but may feel that a layoff is looming in the future and may just have not shared that with you, so sometimes you may need to give him some time. The one type of person who doesn’t need time is the type that only takes and never gives. This person not only never pays, but will often have the “money is no object” attitude to you paying. This person is definitely a freeloader and the sooner you identify this one, the better.



Moving in together (the ultimate freeloader)- If you ask someone to move in with you, then presumably you want to take that relationship to the next level. If you are the one that is being asked to share your place, then you need to take a good look at why your partner is suggesting this move. We have had quite a bit of love dilemmas posted where the request to move in has been accompanied by the words “I need a place to stay.” No matter how wonderful you think that he or she is, this is a huge red flag. When someone wants to move in with you because they need a place to stay it is time to not only say no to the request, but it is time to say no to the relationship.



So,when trying to decide between thrifty and cheap, we often need to look beyond single actions to see what someone’s financial picture looks like and what other things they are cutting back on in their lives. The freeloader category is a little easier to assess, since these relationships are for the most part all take and no give. Remember, thrifty is good, you may or may not want to give someone who is cheap a chance, but freeloaders should be cut loose as soon as they are identified.

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

4 Kissing Mistakes

KISS KILLER: Attack of the Mouth




“A kiss should be soft and gentle, not like being mauled by an animal,” says Answerology kisser snowbear08.



When in doubt, proceed with caution. Start slow and let kissing momentum build naturally. Forcing a passionate liplock might catch your partner off-guard, so avoid coming off like an overzealous puppy and show some restraint—pay attention to your partner’s signals. Kissing is a team sport, and if your significant other has to play defense all night, you’re being too aggressive. Suppress your alpha urges and let your partner take the lead. You might learn a trick or two!





KISS KILLER: The Grandma Peck



“No tongue is the worst. A kiss doesn’t have to be wet and sloppy, but it shouldn’t chafe either,” shell1130 said.





If you have your date reaching for the Chapstick and wondering if there was indeed a kiss, get back in there with a little more enthusiasm. A closed mouth and tiny pecks have never in the history of kissing rocked anyone’s world. Kiss like you mean it—engage your entire mouth, not just tightly pursed lips.

KISS KILLER: Bad Breath



Questionable breath makes Answerology user notsohawt run the other way. “It’s not so hard to pop a mint,” she says. “Even better, BRUSH YOUR TEETH. Finding food in the guy’s mouth wouldn’t be much of a turn on.”





Better safe (and minty-fresh) than sorry. All the kissing technique in the world won’t save you if you’re entering a room breath-first. Make it a habit to carry mints or gum with you, and offer some to your date without waiting for them to ask.

KISS KILLER: Going Off-Target



“One guy slobbered all over my face, and was actually licking my chin and cheeks,” notsohawt told us.





A mid-makeout kiss on the cheek or forehead? Sweet. A wandering tongue that leaves a trail of drool on your date’s face? Scary. Enthusiasm is key for a killer kiss, but keep the saliva in check—a mid-kiss towel wipedown is a mood-kill. If your kissing partner keeps needing breathers to wipe off their face, take the hint. Or at least bring some tissues next time.

Saturday, October 23, 2010

How to pet a kitty






Though I dont really like cats

Thursday, October 21, 2010

心理測驗 你會搶好朋友的男(女)朋友嗎?

題目:假若你的好朋友戴了一個非常好看又別致的飾品,你也非常喜歡這件飾品,你會?

1.問他在哪裡買的,趕快也去買一個

2.心想可能很貴,也不喜歡戴與他人相同的飾品

3.顯露羨慕的表情,向他借來戴

4.覺得不適合他戴,向他要來自己戴





1. 選“問他在哪裡買的,趕快也去買一個”

你不會去搶別人的戀人,即使很喜歡,也只是放在心裡;但你會以他為標准,選擇一位條件類似的戀人,你懂得如何選擇伴侶,只要有機會,一定會找到理想的伴侶。





2. 選“心想可能很貴,也不喜歡戴與他人同的飾品”

你有隨遇而安的個性,不與人爭,也不會搶別人的伴侶。你有自己的品味,重視精神生活,因此會選擇彼此個性相投的伴侶,感情很好,你是個能享受婚姻生活的人,在這種問題上很低調。





3. 選“顯露羨慕的表情,向他借來戴”

你會情不自禁地跟好友的情人示好,雖不完全故意,但若時機來到,有可能占有朋友的愛人。你的多情與熱情,使感情生活相當豐富,朋友多,戀愛機會也多。





4. 選“覺得不適合他戴,向他要來自己戴”

你是當仁不讓與人競爭型的人物。充滿自信,本身條件也不錯,很懂得競爭,常常是勝利者。在愛情的戰場上,你有充足的機會大顯身手,一定可以得到你喜歡的戀人!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Life is about process

Monday, October 18, 2010

男朋友女朋友 流行暧昧男女关系

男朋友女朋友?不好说;爱人同志?是,又不是;兄弟姐妹?也可以这么说吧……


  其实,连他们自己都不那么清楚彼此的关系。仿佛,他缺不了她,她也离不了他,但其实,各有各的阳光空气和水分……

  一直以多元价值颠覆传统的城市在不断新陈代谢,男女关系也已经越来越多元化,他和她,从情感到身体的关系,越来越暧昧,也越来越无法定义。



  暧昧关系之一:哥哥妹妹(姐姐弟弟)

  暧昧指数:****

  清白指数:***

  招牌口号:“某某是我哥,我们是亲人。”

  “她比我小10岁呢,小妹妹……”

  经典镜头:

  1.每日中午,他所在的公司前台,都会出现一个年轻小女子,笑着提着几个饭盒,说:“哥啊……尝尝我今天做的蛋炒饭,怎么样?”然后笑吟吟地看着他吃完,再帮他收拾,不忘给他细心地擦去下巴上的米粒。他心疼地说:“真不知道你小脑袋瓜里在想什么!” 2.聚会上,他身边美女如云,哥们儿彼此调笑,吃豆腐之事见多不怪。可是,有人跟她讲起荤段子,惹得她满面红晕,他立刻倒立英眉,教训对方说:“不可以欺负她,她是我妹妹。”

  3.她衣着时髦,身边却会经常出现个年轻的小伙子,甜甜地叫她姐姐。其实全无血缘关系。过马路的时候,她都会紧紧地抓着他的手,吃饭的时候,会特地给他送一筷子菜,很多追求她的男人很容易遭受她的白眼,只有这个小“弟弟”,时而像个大人一样保护“姐姐”,时而成了一个让“姐姐”哭笑不得的小淘气。

  关系透析:

  对“哥哥”来说,小妹妹的存在意义是,令他有保护她的欲望,当男性内心的英雄主义需要倾泻的时候,当他感觉无助和寂寞的时候,“小妹妹”的乖巧和柔弱往往比一般的温柔体贴更令他感觉舒服,而她对他的崇拜,更是让他感到格外自信,恰好满足了男人的某种精神征服欲。对“妹妹”来说,她要的十分简单——被疼爱被保护。

  对“姐姐”来说,在没有完美的男朋友之前,“弟弟”是一个很贴心的小跟屁虫,他具备男人和男孩的双重效益,他不会故意和她过不去,她有麻烦的时候,他不会背叛誓言,而当她母性流露的时候,他又成了可爱天真的“小东西”。对“弟弟”来说,“姐姐”往往是值得信赖,充满女性魅力的女人。

  潜在危机:

  现实生活里,大部分的“亲情”关系往往很难演变为真正的爱情关系。此类男女关系中,多的是怜惜和疼爱的成分,少有什么共同语言,更谈不上阅历相当,而且“弟弟妹妹”对“哥哥姐姐”的感情,往往更为沉重和复杂,并且很容易陷入其中难以自拔,一旦“暧昧”过度,一旦“哥哥姐姐”有了情人,“弟弟妹妹”难免会成为绊脚石。



  暧昧关系之二:红颜蓝颜

  暧昧指数:*****

  清白指数:*

  招牌口号:“女人的心和身体是可以分开的,我们之间,就一个纯字。”  “男人女人之间没有纯洁的友谊?那只怪你没找到红颜知己。”  “他是我灵魂上的知己,我们彼此了解却又永不占有。”

  经典镜头:

  1.每次和老婆吵架后,他都会夺门而出,跑到她家里哭诉一番,完了会说:“为什么我爱的人不是你?为什么我老婆就不能像你这样善解人意?”她回答:“如果你老婆可以做到我这样,她就不是你老婆了。”

  2.被老板批评后,她十分想不通,女朋友约她去逛街散心都不肯,非要给他电话痛诉一顿,他给她分析事例,剖析人生道理,直说到她重新开朗起来。碰到一些重大选择,她也会找他商量,感觉十分有共同语言。她说:“我男朋友最了解我的身体,你是最了解我的心事的知己。”

  关系透析:

  心情烦闷的时候,遇见各种人生难题的时候,他们就成了“相濡以沫”的鱼,一旦海水返潮,便各自游去。即使双方各自有爱人,有些私房话和知心话也只跟“红颜蓝颜”说。从某种程度上来说,这种男女关系大多是停留在精神层面上的相爱,也可以说,和情人关系相比,他们只缺少肉体交流。

  潜在危机:

  即使是最清白的红颜蓝颜知己,一旦有一方的爱人不够开通懂事,便容易被误会成第三者;其次,毕竟是一男一女,一旦“酒逢知己千杯少”,投入深情过度,难免“宽衣解带”,而一旦破了最后一道防线,这“知己”关系就难再继续。



  暧昧关系之三:网络情人

  暧昧指数:*****

  清白指数:**

  招牌口号:“我爱你,即使永不见你。我可以感觉到你的一切,看不到你,这不是问题。”

  “我们在比特的世界里相爱,离开网络,这份爱就无法生存。”

  经典镜头:

  1.他天天回家吃老婆亲手做的饭菜,然后她在厨房里洗涤的时候,听到房间里传来敲击键盘的声音。那个不用为他打理生活和一切的女人,在网络那一边心安理得地瓜分着她丈夫的感情。而她仍安静地守着她嫁的男人已经失去灵魂的躯壳。

  2.“亲爱的,送你999朵玫瑰。”   “真的吗?”

  一封贴着玫瑰图的电子邮件“嗖”地到了她的邮箱。  

  “让我吻你吧……”  

  “嗯,我感觉到了,你温软湿润的嘴唇……”  

  “嗯,我特地为你刷过牙呢。”

  关系透析:

  在网上,他们“相爱”,甚至举行婚礼,从来没见过的两个陌生人,文字游戏是彼此的依赖和情趣来源。他们沉溺其中,网络令他们看上去很“完美”。

  与一般的网恋不同,这种网络情人,多半不会见面,只是依赖对对方的想像,制造各种浪漫的气氛和假想。

  与现实生活里的爱情不同,网络情人所付出的成本十分低廉,且不需要承受道德上的压力。

  潜在危机:

  因为彼此爱的,只是自己的想像,和文字制造的迷宫。所以万一,万一见面的话,后果很难想像。美女恐龙也就算了,如果发现对面那个竟然……



  暧昧关系之四:异性合住

  暧昧指数:***

  清白指数:***

  招牌口号:“一个人住,负担太重,而且我怕黑,有个男生,也好照应。”

  “她的重要意义体现在每个月除了方便面不知道还能吃什么的时候。”

  “他的重要意义体现在每次保险丝断了,煤气罐没气了的时候……”

   经典镜头:

  1.他管他的房间叫男生宿舍,她管她的房间叫女生宿舍,其他都是公用。下水道坏了,即使他正沉迷于游戏机,也一叫就到。外面暴雨,无法出去吃饭,哄她两句,许诺有钱请她吃大餐,保证一会就有两菜一汤热腾腾地送上来。

  2.晚上要举行party了,她跟他商量道:“可能朋友比较多,我的屋子里放不了那么多人,能不能腾出点空间给我?”他一口答应,说:“下次做好吃的给我就行了,聚会那天我会自动消失,什么时候散会了给我发个短信……”

  关系透析:  

  相对女女同租而言,男女合住带来的更多是愉快、信任和放松的感觉。跟办公室里“男女搭配,干活不累”的意义一样,此类新房客关系,充满了另一意义上的情趣感。调查显示,大多数异性合租的女性都认为:男性不会和女性斤斤计较,房间的大小、朝向以及卫生间谁用多了,谁用少了等细节问题都不会在意,女人和女人之间的情况就复杂得多了,严重的甚至会闹到不欢而散,朋友反目。真正的男女合租彼此尊重,保持距离,又可以互相帮助,对双方来说,既体验到了异性的大多优点,又避免了彼此猜疑、独占和斤斤计较的麻烦。

  潜在危机:

  房子本身就已经十分暧昧,单身男女共住一房,即使并非一室,也已经非常非常接近。回家的人,往往会将自己还原到本真,随意的、自由的、散漫的,甚至丑陋的生活细节都暴露在彼此眼前,固然有因生活方式十分接近而发展为相爱的,但毕竟还是一对有距离的男女。合租房子的异性很容易发展成情侣,由合租演化为同居。但是如果因为一时的盲目,或者带着解决个人问题的心态来寻求合住,就有可能被别有用心的人利用,伤了感情,也搅乱了生活。



  暧昧关系之五:性伴侣

  暧昧指数:*****

  清白指数:*

  招牌口号:“只需要陪伴不需要相爱。”

  “心灵的空虚有很多解决的办法,但身体的饥渴,却无可奈何,所以,我需要性伴侣。”

  经典镜头:

  1.周五快下班的时候,她的手机响了,他的声音响起来:“这个周末你方便吗?”她想了想:“我想想看,喔,不行,我有个朋友要从广州过来看我,恐怕你不方便过来。”

  他很干脆,笑笑说:“好吧,祝你周末愉快,想我了就call我。”

  2.每个固定时间,他都会如期至约,接她下班吃顿饭,然后去他的公寓或者她的宿舍,春宵一宿,然后告别。她甚至连他的工作情况都一无所知,惟一能确定的是,他是个不错的性伙伴。

  关系透析:

  怀特.米尔斯在《私情缠绕》中说:“现代人的一个特征是像找寻财富一样地渴望不为人所知的亲密私情,在适当的时间出现和停止。”

  如今的性伴侣的含义里,除了解决生理问题外,更多的是对自己的安慰和对现实的逃避。毕竟都是害怕寂寞,更害怕别人知道他们寂寞的人。我们需要爱,也不可以没有性。大多数时候,性和爱是一样重要的。有个性伙伴,至少有了身体的温暖,可以暂时忘却心灵的孤寂。

  潜在危机:

  罗素早已经一语道破:“爱情能使我们整个的生命更新,正如大旱之后的甘霖对于植物一样。没有爱的性行为,却完全没有这等力量。一刹欢娱过后,剩下的是疲倦,厌恶,以及生命的空虚之感。”



  暧昧关系之六:兼职家长(司机、保镖、保姆……)

  暧昧指数:****

  清白指数:**

  招牌口号:“反正他有车,正好顺路送我而已。”

  “男人请女人吃饭从来都是正常的事情,他愿请,我愿吃,别人看什么看!”

  经典镜头:

  1.他有一辆奥迪;他在一家大公司里身居高位;他有相爱的女朋友。不记得是怎么认识他的,总之,好像从某天晚上他主动送她回家后,从知道彼此的公司在一条线路上后,每天接送她,便成了他的习惯。

  2.每到下班时分,如果男朋友没空,她就会在办公室里大声嚷嚷:“今天谁请我吃饭呀!”然后矛头就对准了其中一个男同事,娇滴滴地哄他,摇着他的肩膀:“还是你请我吧,好吗?”

  关系透析:

  他们的关系多是从工作合作方面发展起来的。很多时候,多是由女性主动,认定被男人照顾是天经地义的,而男人的“英雄主义”心态,又令他们大多时候都倍感荣幸。这种关系中,利用的成分往往比较多。

  潜在危机:

  因为这样的关系是建立在单纯的“互相照顾,互相利用”之上,男女双方往往缺乏共同语言。一旦照顾失败,或者“服务”缺乏周到,容易导致关系恶化。此外,一些绯闻也多出现在这种“兼职家长”身边,也许你只是搭了谁谁的顺风车而已,但别人怎么知道,车的终点是哪里呢?



  暧昧关系之七:约会拍档

  暧昧指数:****

  清白指数:**

  招牌口号:“一个人玩有什么好玩,我不过是给自己找了个玩伴而已。”

  “他知道哪里有最好吃的东西,有最好玩最新奇的玩意,能嗅到这个城市的‘兴奋点’,与其随便找个人陪我,不如找个会玩的。”

  经典镜头:

  1.每到影院公布新一期的大片播放周期,她就会立刻致电给他,让他准备好爆米花和可乐,陪她去看电影,她并不介意是她买票还是他请客,也不介意通宵研究观后感,她觉得,除了他,没有人更适合当这方面的知音了。

  2.每次和论坛上的一帮朋友聚会,他都会叫上她。虽然她从不去这个论坛,也对他们所谈的所谓文化话题缺乏兴趣。他就是喜欢叫上她作陪,一起猜拳喝酒。仿佛她的职责就是,当他在饭桌上谈笑风声的时候,负责大吃大喝捞回本钱似的。

  关系透析:

  他们不是情侣,却常常约会、旅游、喝酒、看电影……是固定的约会搭档。从通俗意义上说,也可以理解成“酒肉朋友”。他们往往在某一个兴趣爱好或者一种行为习惯方面拥有共同的兴趣,并且每次约会都可以兴致勃勃,高兴而来,高兴而去。也属于一个要陪,一个愿陪的姜太公钓鱼模式。

  看来,新新男女关系已经被划分得越来越细,需要按照职责、爱好、具体功能等各方面来划分了。而个中的微妙之处就在于——物以类聚。

  潜在危机:

  如果约会拍档的关系足够稳定、确定,建立在共同的兴趣爱好的基础上的话,可以称之为志同道合。如果只是一方寂寞了需要消遣,而另一个属于纯粹的“n陪”的话,那么这样的关系就有说不清道不明的嫌疑了。或者就是愿陪的那方在暗恋要陪的那方,这无疑是在伤害其中一人的感情,也耗费了另一人的光阴。

Saturday, October 16, 2010

男人,其实你不懂!

女人不吵了、不闹了、不叫了,就是真的不爱了

女人说要离开,是伤心了,是你让他失望了.

女人明知道你们之间没有未来,却情愿留在你身边做个普通朋友,不是她太贱,只是她舍不得 .

女人故意在你面前提到别的男人,不是她花心,只是想要刺激一下你,让你多在乎她一点 .

女人不主动打电话、发信息给你,不是不想你,是她不够自信,你接到电话、

短信时,是否也同样的想念她 .

如果女人不爱你,是不会对你发脾气的,不要报怨自己的女朋友脾气太怪,女人只对她爱的人发脾气.

女人不是不知道你还有别的女人,她选择独自伤心却不揭穿你,是害怕揭穿后给了你一个离开她的借口.

女人总是在你面前假装很开心,不是她没心没肺,成天傻乐,只是为了在你面前留下最美的样子.

男人 其实你不懂

1 她总是问:你在哪呢?你现在在干吗? (她很想念你,只是想跟你说说话,你不给她发信息,她很矛盾,怕你在忙,但又忍不住想你.换了别人,爱干嘛干嘛,她不关心.所以请你一有时间就问候她一下,让她放心,让她知道你心里有她,她不会烦你.她总是主动联系你,她会觉得她贱.)

2 她说:我不开心了,我好烦. (不要怪她无理取闹,更不能觉得她在烦你,她不是真的不开心,她只是想你了.只是想要你会来安慰她一下,哪怕是:乖,别闹了,听话!)

3 她说:不要感冒了./路上小心./自己多注意…… (不要嫌她烦.因为她知道你不傻,甚至是很聪明的.她只想让你知道她心里有你,她很想关心你)

4 她总说自己又长胖了或者长得不够漂亮. (不要觉得她是在自卑或嫉妒别人,她只是怕自己在你眼中不够完美.她已经在为你改变了.)

5 她总说她想要帮你,要你有什么事一定要告诉她. (其实她知道她帮不了你什么,她只想让你知道你还有她,她永远在会你身边陪你,会一直的支持你,)

6 她看到你跟别的女生亲近一些就会生气,发小脾气. (别说她小气,不信任你,她其实是在吃醋,这表示她十分在乎你.即使心里难受也会自己安慰自己.)

7 无论做什么她总会征求你的意见. (不是她没主见,太过依赖你,她只是尊重你,凡事以你为先.)

8 不管在哪里她总是紧紧的和你站在一起. (她只是在告诉你她信任你.)

9 她爱忧伤,总是会多想. (不要觉得她是想太多,只是有时她会觉得缺乏安全感.)

10 她假装生气转身离开. (其实,她不是真的想走,只是离开的时候希望被挽留.)

11 她会突然冷淡你,或是向你撒娇. (别怪她孩子气,她只是想让你哄哄她.)

12 也许有一天她会跟你说分手. (其实,这个时候她已经喜欢你好久,只是不确定这份感情是不是对的.她只是要你的安全感,你的舍不得,你的不要走……)

Friday, October 15, 2010

我希望你能理解。。女生。。都這樣想。。

1---如果你的女朋友在你面前哭了,無論什麼原因,請抱緊她,再反抗也要抱緊,趴在桌子上永遠沒有在你懷裡安心
2---如果你的女朋友指出了你的不是,請不要總是嫌她嘮叨,若不是因為在乎。。她不會說你
3---如果你的女朋友和你賭氣不理你,不要也學她,這正是考驗你們的時候,“臉皮厚”的精神此時不發揚又更待何時
4---如果你的女朋友不聽你的話,轉身走了,一定要追上她,若真的還愛著,丟下她一個人你又如何放心呢
5---如果你的女朋友說:“你走吧,我不想理你了“,千萬不要相信,女人最是口是心非,其實那是她最需要你的時候
6---如果你的女朋友生氣了,說心情不好不想吃飯,千萬不要問她想幹嗎想吃什麼,她一定說什麼都不要,買好你記憶裡她最愛吃的東西(最好是有包裝的,這樣等她心情好了再吃也不會冷),但一定不要以自己也不吃來威脅她
7---如果你的女朋友在每個月的特殊時候,請牢記,別問她吃不吃冷飲,常將手放在她的肚子上,夏天也可以,她需要那樣
8---如果你的女朋友對你們說狠話,請保持三秒鐘不說話,然後摟過她的肩,笑笑說:“老婆,你講話的聲音真可愛!”
珍惜一直陪在你身邊的女朋友,不要把她想的那麼複雜,女人要的永遠最簡單!

Monday, October 11, 2010

从成功和少妇上床中学习经济学常识

1、一男赶集卖猪,天黑遇雨,二十头猪未卖成,到一农家借宿。

 



   少妇说:家里只一人不便。

    男:求你了大妹子,给猪一头。

    女:好吧,但家只有一床。

    男:我也到床上睡,再给猪一头。

    女:同意。

    半夜男与女商量,我到你上面睡,女不肯。

    男:给猪两头。

    女允,要求上去不能动。

    少顷,男忍不住,央求动一下,女不肯。

    男:动一下给猪两头。女同意。

    男动了八次停下,女问为何不动?

    男说猪没了。

    女小声说:要不我给你猪……

    天亮后,男吹着口哨赶30头(含少妇家的10头)猪赶集去了……





  哈佛导师评论:要发现用户潜在需求,前期必须引导,培养用户需求,因此产生的投入是符合发展规律的。





 2、 (加强篇)

  另一男得知此事,决意如法炮制,遂赶集卖猪,天黑遇雨,二十头猪未卖成,到一农家借宿



    少妇说:家里只一人不便。

    男:求你了大妹子,给猪一头

    女:好吧,但家只有一床。

    男:我也到床上睡,再给猪一头。

    女:同意。

    半夜男商女,我到你上面睡,女不肯。

    男:给猪两头。

    女允,要求上去不能动。

    少顷,男忍不住,央求动一下,女不肯。

    男:动一下给猪两头。女同意。

    男动了七次停下,女问为何不动?

    男说:完事了~~~女:……

    天亮后,男低著头赶2头猪赶集去了……



  哈佛导师评论:要结合企业自身规模进行谨慎投资,谨防资金链断裂问题





 3、 又一男得知此事,决意如法炮制兼吸取教训,遂先用一头猪去换一粒伟哥,事必,天亮后,男吹着口哨赶38头(含少妇家的18头)猪赶集去了……





  哈佛导师评论:企业如果获得金融资本的帮助,自身经营能力将得到倍增。





4、知道此法男多,伟哥供不应求,逐渐要2头,3头猪换一粒伟哥。





  哈佛导师评论:这就是通货膨胀。





5、当猪价格涨到16粒一棵的时候,哈佛导师评论:该男已经进入边际成本,除了拥有对自身能力的自信和未来良好愿望以外,实际现猪流已经为零。



  但换猪男越来越多,卖伟哥的决定,扩展生产能力,推出一种次级伟哥,如果你缺一头猪,只要你承诺可以到该女房中一夜,就可以先借,事成后补交猪款,这个方法大大促进了伟哥销售。



 

 哈佛导师评论:这就是贷款,让企业可以根据未来的收益选择借支流动资金







6、 伟哥专卖店后来在即使你一头猪都没有,只要你承诺可以到该女房中一夜,就可以先借,事成后补交猪款。





  哈佛导师评论:这就是金融创新,让现在的人花未来的钱,反正等你老了未来的钱你也花不动。





  消息一出,换猪男越来越多,有人找伟哥专卖店,这个项目太好了,我们把它变成优质基金,对外销售债卷,你们也就可以分享我的收益,如何?



  结果伟哥专卖店觉得甚好,于是该公司把换猪男分三类,一类是拿现猪换的,一类是一部分现猪贷的,一类是完全没有现猪借的,发行三种债卷。大家踊跃而上。纷纷购买伟哥专卖店的债卷,伟哥专卖店生意太好,就把债卷销售外包给另外一家公司运作,该公司也一并大发其财,公司越做越大,甚至可以脱离实际伟哥销售情况来发行,给自己和伟哥专卖店带来巨大的现金收益。





  哈佛导师评论:这就是专业的人做专业的事,从实体经营到资本运作,经济进入了更高的层次。





7、为了防止自己债卷未来有损失,该公司决定给它买上保险,这样债卷销售就更容易,因为一旦债卷出现问题,还可以获得保险公司的赔付,哇,债券公司销售这下子太好了,保险公司也获得巨大平白无故的保险收入。





  哈佛导师评论:这就是风险对冲,策略联盟,提高了企业的抗风险能力,也保护了消费者利益。





8、换猪男太多,排长队等待,该女无法承受,说老娘不干了,我搬家,一时间有无数拥有伟哥的欠猪男。





  哈佛导师评论:这是个别现象,属于市场的正常波动,不会影响整个经济。





9、结果该女迟迟不肯搬回。一部分欠猪男没有收入,只好赖帐,结果大量债卷到期无法换现猪吃,债卷公司一看,一粒伟哥16头猪,这哪里还得起,宣布倒闭





  哈佛导师评论:这是次贷危机,不会影响整个金融行业。





10、 哪里晓得债卷公司还把债卷上了保险,保险公司一看,这哪里赔得起,于是也宣布要倒闭。





  哈佛导师评论:这是金融危机,还不会影响整个实体经济。

Thursday, October 7, 2010

品格是处理好人际关系的基础

品格是处理好人际关系的基础,也是确保人际关系质量的关键。除此之外,人际交往的技巧也是尤为重要的。有些人做好事会让人感激一辈子,而有些人帮了别人却可能费力不讨好,不但得不到感激和回报,还让人心存嫉恨。将同样的产品以相同的价格推销给同一个客户,有些业务员可能被粗暴地赶出门,有些业务员却可能签到大单,甚至被客户奉为上宾。

人际交往的技巧是一个非常庞杂的话题,囿于篇幅,在这里只能结合我的切身体会做一些简单的列举,挂一漏万在所难免了。

1. 多给别人鼓励和表扬,尽量避免批评、指责和抱怨,不要逼别人认错。

2. 要学会倾听。不要说得太多,想办法让别人多说。

3. 如果你要加入别人的交谈,先要弄清楚别人究竟在说什么。

4. 交谈之前尽量保持中立、客观。表明自己的倾向之前先要弄清楚对方真实的倾向。

5. 注意对方的社交习惯并适当加以模仿。

6. 不要轻易打断、纠正、补充别人的谈话。

7. 别人有困难时,主动帮助,多多鼓励。

8. 不要因为对方是亲朋好友而不注意礼节。

9. 尽可能谈论别人想要的,教他怎样去得到他想要的。

10. 始终以微笑待人。

11. 做一个有幽默感的人。但是在讲笑话的时候千万不要只顾着自己笑。

12. 做一个脱离低级趣味的人。

13. 跟别人说话的时候尽量看着对方的眼睛,不管你是在说还是在听。

14. 转移话题要尽量不着痕迹。

15. 要学会聆听对方的弦外之音。也要学会通过弦外之音来委婉地表达自己的意思。

16. 拜访别人一定要事先通知。

17. 不要在别人可能忙于工作或者休息的时候打电话过去。除非是非常紧急的事情。

18. 给别人打电话的时候,先问对方是否方便通话。

19. 一件事情让两个人知道就不再是秘密。

20. 你在背后说任何人的坏话都迟早有一天传入这个人的耳朵。

21. 不要说尖酸刻薄的话。

22. 牢记他人的名字。养成偶尔翻看名片簿、电话本的习惯。

23. 尝试着跟你讨厌的人交往。

24. 一定要尊重对方的隐私,不管是朋友还是夫妻。

25. 很多人在一起的时候,当你与其中某个人交谈,请不要无视其他人的存在。

26. 要勇于认错。

27. 以谦卑的姿态面对身边的每一个人。

28. 给予他人同情和谅解。

29. 尽可能用“建议”取代“命令”。

30. 不要轻易做出承诺。承诺的事情就一定要尽可能做到。

Cartoon Of the day

Sunday, October 3, 2010

新粮变老婆

Friday, October 1, 2010

First Fart in a relationship


When someone farts and they don't want to admit to this, they either say :-




1. "Can you smell that?" - before everyone else does

or

2. "I can't smell anything!"- when everyone else does





But what happens when you start a relationship?



- For guys, all disgusting farting habits are ceased. Guys are no longer loud and proud about their loud and smelly farts. This is because they want to make the girl like them. Once the girl falls in love, they can no longer escape from the guy's farting machine abilities.



- For girls, what do you mean? Girls' farts smell like roses!







I have some limited advice for all you dating farters out there. Before you let out wind, usually, you can sort of tell which type of fart is going to emit from your orifice. If it is a :-



1. Silent and harmless fart



Do it! No-one but you will know.

If you see your other half harboring a secret half-smile but they won't tell you why, they have done one of these farts!



2. Loud and harmless fart



Before you let it out, turn up the volume of the radio or TV or cough loudly or say, "HEY, WHAT'S THAT?" - anything just to distract their attention and if you time it nicely, congratulate yourself.

If you see your other half acting oddly and harbouring a secret smile, they have done one of these farts!



3. Loud and deadly



There's not much you can do here except run out the room and let it out. Both of you will hear this and probably laugh about it. It's almost funny.

You will be loud and proud of the loudness and the smelliness of this fart.

Whereas your other half will laugh about the noise, but they will also be holding their breath so they'll have some weird choking laugh.

The noise warns them a nasty smell is on the way so at least, they're semi-prepared.



4. Silent and deadly fart



This is the deadliest fart of them all.

You think it's going to be silent and harmless so you relax and let it go. You WILL smell it first and boy, it's a STINKER! You must quickly act on this.

Either confess or feign ignorance.



If you confess before the smell hits your other half, at least, they will appreciate your warning and hold their breath.



If you feign ignorance, make sure it's when there are other people in the room (e.g. in the cinema, in a lift full of people), so it could have been from anyone.



Make sure you are NOT the first one to smell it, because that's a giveaway - "whoever smelt it, dealt it"

But again, don't deny the fact there is a bad smell in the air when everyone else can smell it because the finger points to you.

The biggest problem is if you feign ignorance and there are only two of you in the room. You cannot talk yourself out of that one! Hang your head in shame!



I'm going to confess and give you two true stories here.



On first or second non-serious date

So on this date, there were only two of us in an enclosed area. I had a semi-sore tummy and let one rip. The guy, who liked me loads, made a twitch when the smell wafted over. I was embarrassed but refused to let my face betray me. "What's wrong?", I said. Pause. "Oh, er, nothing..." he replied. What a gentleman! And for the rest of our relationship, this incident was never brought up so either a) the fart wasn't that deadly or b) he was too traumatized to talk about it ever again.



After a few dates, when both are in love with each other

So on this date, there was two of us and we were just chilling out and enjoying each other's company. One of those dates where both are comfortable with silence and there is no need for conversation. Again, I had a semi-sore tummy and had to let one go. I thought it would have been harmless, but oh dear, it was deadly. I quickly went over to the boyfriend and tried to distract him by kissing him. He was surprisingly delighted with my forward approach...until 2.5 seconds later, when his nasal cavity was filled with my deadly emission...and then he started laughing at me. Because he just knew! It was suspicious when I started kissing him first, but then it was apparent why when he smelt the fart. We both laughed about it.



The first fart in a relationship is always going to be awkward. But once you've both laughed about it, it becomes easier and you've seen or smelt another side of your other half.



My married friends admit they have farting competitions in bed to see who can do the loudest and smelliest ones - that is just SICK!



Any farting stories to share? Come on, don't be shy

王力宏-需要人陪 MV

Thursday, September 30, 2010

What Nice Guys Need

Nice guys seem to realize this pattern where girls go after assholes instead of them. They think, "Why can't she see how nice I am and like me instead, if she says that all she wants is a nice guy?"






Well, here's the deal. Some girls say they want nice guys, but that's not always true. In fact, maybe some girls are actually bitches in disguise, pretending they want all that lovey dovey mushy stuff, but going after their perfect matches - the assholes. And these are the kinds of girls that nice guys hang on to, it seems. The bitches. The ones that don't really care about the nice guy, much as they might say they do.





You know what nice guys need? Nice guys need nice girls. That really shy chick in the back of the room with the glasses, that never talks in class, that you've certainly never spoken to, that isn't so hot? Yeah, that one. Go after her, and maybe things will change.



Girls never go for nice guys?



Of course that's a generalization, and not always true. But let's make another one.



Guys never go for nice girls.



That's a generalization too. But maybe it will help all of us realize how much we need to appreciate the nice people in our life. How we shouldn't abuse them, and how we should consider giving them a chance as our SOs. That might change a lot.



Is the problem with nice guys that they never go after nice girls?

没当初。没如今。缘分就是前轴开始。

谓事情发生了却不能回头?事情发生了就是发生了,但不能当做没有发生过。缘分让大家相遇,缘分让大家走在一起,缘分让大家度过快乐,缘分让大家度过悲伤。注定要发生的,怎么逃还是逃不掉命运的手里。是缘分开始每段快乐的前轴,接着喜怒哀乐,酸甜苦辣的演奏就是人与人之间的沟通如何把事情演变好与坏。快乐时光是那么的短暂,悲伤的时光却停留永久。演变坏就好像某些例子:结婚本来是段圆满的结束,也是另一阶段艰苦的开始,艰苦挨得过就是快乐,挨不过最后却是悲伤的收场。

天长地久,白头偕老你想要吗?梦想过吗?真的会有吗?每个人都会想拥有,但是有多少人能办的到?结婚不一定是圆满结局,圆满结局的结局用在那些能互相扶持的阿公阿嬷会比较适合吧,他们七老八十还是甜蜜的手托手慢慢的一拐一拐的脚步行走,他们经历的风风雨雨是现今的社会人士难以懂得掌握的人生道理。一些挫折发生而没有勇气面对,这是一种逃避。现实的生活中却有很多如此的人,逃避而不去面对,利用快乐遮盖悲伤的裂缝,表面快乐但内心呢?

男与女的友谊为何不能做一世的好友知己或兄妹情,反而女和女却能由朋友关系变成知己甚至姐妹般亲密。很多男女关系就是从好朋友关系开始,朋友是超多的话题,朋友是无话不谈,朋友伤心快乐都会让彼此知道与分享,当朋友慢慢的产生爱的感觉后,慢慢的也进入暧昧关系,甚至于手牵手正式成为情侣。到了情侣阶段反倒出现隐瞒与沉默无言,是因为爱对方而不想受伤害而隐瞒还是什么原因,到最后没人知道那答案,缘分让大家认识相遇,就是前轴的开始,没有当初,没有如今。

好朋友关系能知道一切一切,情侣关系只能获知某些某些,这是什么折磨啊?如果有得选择回到前轴,也许暗恋又或者知道彼此有感觉就足够,选择好朋友关系,知道对方吃饱了没,最近忙些什么,发生什么有趣快乐的事情甚至诉心事。反而某些人进入情侣关系,男方/女方不想让彼此知道不愉快的事情,因为不要他/她为彼此担心多想和忧虑,但是两人一起不就因为要了解更多,知道更多吗,更加不该出现隐瞒吧?月老为他/她牵红线,应该珍惜,错过了不会回来了。把握时间,因为时间才能够肯定爱的存在,有缘才相聚,是否更该去珍惜。

有些人想为答案而找答案,对方却不让你知道答案,也许对方为了保护彼此关系,那答案说出来会带来不开心,所以还是选择不说。往往很多时候,其实答案那人已经知道也接受及原谅,却等待着对方说出。你我无缘,何以擦肩而过;你我有缘,何以魂牵梦境。世上最遥远的距离,不是生与死的别离。而是当我站在你面前,你却不知道我爱上你。输了你,赢了世界,又如何呢?送给单身朋友,暗恋朋友的朋友,以及恋爱中的朋友。加油维持你和他的关系吧!因为缘分已经开始了前轴,已经不能回到以前了,下半部轴就自己如何把它演奏了,接受与面对事实。

朋友与朋友之间的缘分是这样开始,没有当初的介绍,陌生人就不会成为朋友,朋友也不会因为如此变成好朋友甚至知己。朋友一起玩过,疯过,哭过,闹过,打过,笑过。缘分开始了陌生与朋友之间的转变。岁月的步伐,朋友之间经历的,慢慢成为照片的回忆,那些开心的日子不会再有,也许忙碌让大家淡忘,是否在这个时候,抽时间看看那照片背后的开心呢?然后拨通电话问候,寻找回那快乐与悲伤的分享一番呢?

如果你和朋友因为一些小事闹得不愉快,喝喝凉茶消消气,是否想想又何必,多个朋友少个敌人那该多好啊!人生就像一场戏,因为有缘才相聚,为了小事发脾气,回头想想又何必。别人生气我不气,气出病来无人惜,我若气死谁得意?况且伤神又费力。朋友之间都有各别的性格,不能改变的事实,如果不能接受朋友的性格,接受吧,就让彼此之间做个淡水之交情吧,至少友情依然存在到老。

Monday, September 27, 2010

The seven ways to sniff out if your partner is true to you

Not sure if your partner is true to you? Well, then here are a few signs that may help sniff out whether he/she is lying or not.




Here are seven ways to identify a liar, reports FoxNews.



1. Consider the person’s recall: Liars never forget what they have to say but they may stumble when telling a tale by making contradicting statements. They’re also eager to change the subject.



2. Observe the person’s overall body language: Liars can look ill at ease, fiddling with their



hair, stroking their throat, or rubbing their eyes. With their body often turned away from you, you may notice hand or leg fidgeting. Liars also have trouble swallowing and may shake their heads after a point has been made. When the subject finally gets changed, they appear happier and more comfortable, maybe laughing nervously.



3. Take notice of any defensiveness: Liars will often take offence to any indication that they’re under suspicion. They’re likely to throw any accusations you throw at them back at you. They will also talk too much, feeling the need to over-explain themselves.



4. Home in on facial expressions: Liars fail to control their micro-expressions. While fibbing, you may notice nervous twitching. Their hand may be covering or touching their face. People also tend to touch the mouth when feeling guilty or anxious. They’re particularly good with fake smiles.



5. Don’t overlook the Pinocchio reaction: When a human tells a lie, extra blood gets pumped through the body and the nose swells by a fraction of millimeter. Liars may subsequently touch the tip of their nose unconsciously.



6. Concentrate on the eyes: A liar has a troubled brow and downcast or darting eyes. They have trouble directly engaging your gaze. They also give you eye-accessing clues. If the person is telling you the truth, he’ll look up and to the left since that’s the side of the brain we use for recalling information. If she’s lying, she’ll look up and to the right, which is the creative side of the brain, because she’s mentally constructing something that hasn’t happened.



7. Note the person’s voice: The higher the stakes are, the more the liar has a fear of getting caught. With this, the liar has a harder time controlling his body language or her voice. The pitch or rate of the speech may change, with the individual giving a lot of “umms” and “ahhs.” Often, a liar will appear stilted and monotone. Answers may seem rehearsed.

Scents to Seduce your lover

It's often said that love is blind, but if I were to take a page of a science research, it would tell me that scent is responsible for seduction.

Scents are also gender specific - keeping that in mind, find out how to cast a fragrant spell that will enchant your lover into a tender, loving trap. When it comes to seducing your man, scientific tests reveal they become aroused at the scents of pumpkin, vanilla and cinnamon. To intrigue a man, warm a drop or two of those essential oils in a saucepan to leave him weak in the knees. And i If you're trying to seduce a woman, the recipe is simpler. The fragrance of black licorice will trip her trigger. Try star anise essential oil or boiling black licorice and water in a saucepan before she arrives.

Whenever working with essential oils, using only a couple of drops is key. They're potent and too much will literally repel. If essential oils aren't your scene, then reach out for scented candles.

Fire signs will be inflamed by:

Juniper - a stimulating erotic scent that wafts away negativity.

Frankincense - a potent scent known for its ability to open spiritual channels of ecstasy.

Ginger - a spicy, seductive scent that inflames sensuality.

Earth signs will swoon for:

Rosemary - a fresh stimulating scent that awakens devotion and undercurrents of eroticism.

Basil - a gentle scent that enlivens love and invigorates passion and fertility.

Lavender - a calming scent that enfolds the beloved with a sense of nurturance.

Air signs will go mad for:

Sandalwood - an ancient aphrodisiac that inspires experimentation. A perfect accompaniment to Tantra.

Cedarwood - inspires spirituality in eroticism and allows for a deep focus on one's partner.

Clary Sage - creates mental clarity, releases inhibitions and stimulates the erotic body.

Water signs will be transported into ecstasy by:

Jasmine is heady and exotic. It is used to capture, sustain or rekindle the affections of a loved one. It promises deep and lasting affection. It brings strength and warmth to a sexual relationship.

Orange blossoms - lifts the emotions and brings a sense of lightness and energy to lovers.

Ylang Ylang is an erotic scent that acts as a powerful aphrodisiac. It increases libido and enhances attraction between lovers. It can sooth the over anxious while boosting low energy. It opens emotions and promotes a more sensual and erotic experience during lovemaking.

To get the most from the seductive properties of scent, prepare a bath with essential oils and candlelight. If you draw a bath, remember to add only a couple of drops of oil. If your partner enjoys the sensation of silken bubbles, add a measure of bubble bath. Once you and your lover are soaked and relaxed, use a loofah to work up a lather and stimulate the skin. To incite trembles of delight afterward, gently stimulate erogenous areas with a sliver of ice.Then towel each other off, rub in a soothing cream and retire to the bedroom. If all goes well, you'll be making a mess of your clean scrubbed bodies in no time at all!
 
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