How Men fall in love?

The most asked questions by women of all ages is:” Is he is in love with me?” I have a difficult take on what is “love” and what is not?




Romantic attraction and sexual chemistry happens for a majority of men in three stages and in real life,Even if the process of “falling in love” happens to us in only in two stages, it is actually much more difficult for us women to “fall in love” than it is for men. I am sure, this is news for some women, and even hard to believe others . So let me try to explain how easy it is to increase chemistry with a man if you know what you are working with and what you are up against.



1. The first stage of “falling in love” for a man is instant: fast and furious

Unknown to a majority of women, men fall in love at first sight even more frequently than do women. Research shows that within the first fifteen seconds, a women will have decided( sub-consciously) if she will give a guy a chance to try to” make her fall in love” or not. In the same amount of time, a man will have decided if he is “turned” on by how a woman looks or not.

While women use visual, emotions and safety (including financial) cues to assess a man’s desirability, over 90% of a man’s decision at this stage is purely based on visual cues. When his eyes lock on to women for the first time, they lock on to her visual presentation. Whatever he recognize as” suited to carry on his gene, and legacy”, that’s what he focuses on, admiring and lingering on its details. Some men get super glued on boobs, others on booties and others on legs etc. Physical features and bouncy behavior that suggests youth, health and vitality place one woman ahead of all the other pack. And if you are attentive and not trying to delude yourself or force a relationship to happen, you will know when a man is visually attracted to you. He Will Tell You- in very specific verbs and he simply can’t take his eyes off you!

Keep in mind that at this first stage, its just pure sexual chemistry. At this stage you are still dispensable and interchangeable. You’re still just another woman in the pack, and he is still very much attracted to several other women at the same time. How physically attractive a man finds you determines how much time he’ll want to spend with you, and later in the relationship “looks” confirm to him again and again why he finds you attractive. If a man is not physically attracted to you, trying to make him “fall in love” with you is like trying to wake up a dead horse you see and believe what you want to see and believe.



2. The second stage of “falling in love” for a man is when he begins to see you as unique and special

He may still be visually attracted to other women and you may be the women with the “less than perfect” body but there is just “something about you”- and it is driving him nuts. It can be the way you talk or the way you laugh or the way you think or your enthusiasm and passion, or whatever it is you do that makes him think you must feel more deeply and experience life more profoundly and therefore you must be more delightful to be with. At this stage, he pays more attention to your needs, spends more time with you and is over protective when other men try to make a move on “his women”.



3. The third stage of “falling in love” for a man is when he has convinced himself that he is a happier and more fulfilled person with you in his life than when by himself

He feels he is with the right women at the right time, and at this stage, you will not even be asking the question “Is he in love with me?” because you will know. He will have No problem declaring to you how he really feels. He might not always use the words, “I Love You”, but he manages to get his point across. Keep in mind that in this age and time “settle down” does not necessarily mean marriage to all people but it simply means “I AM WITH THE ONE”. This feeling of “I AM WITH THE ONE” is not the same thing as when he feels he “needs” you.

You will do yourself great favour if right now, here and today, you decide to exercise your power of choice to have what you want and to stop wasting time, emotions and energy on going-no-where relationships.

How to spice up a dull and boring relationship

We get so involved with life, work and our own individual lives that we forget about our loved one and take him for granted. It becomes very important for you to take efforts to maintain the spark in your love life to make it interesting and enjoyable rather than dull and boring.




As your relationship starts to grow, it becomes monotonous and boring. Don’t panic each one of us have to face this at one point or the other in life. Here are a few tips that will help you spice up your relationship:

• Communication is the best to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Never carry on a relationship just for the heck of it. Talk out the problems you facing with your partner. Plan out and spent time with your partner to discuss the various issues.

• When the both of you come home from work always give each other a hug. This gesture of yours will make them feel loved and wanted and also that you are always there by their side. Show him your support.

• Boredom may also occur when you are spending too much time with your partner. Try and give space in your relationship. Never loose your own identity when you are in a relationship. Too often in a relationship we forget ourselves and try and imbibe the other person’s likes and dislikes. Do things which you like to do individually.

• Keep gifting things to each other. Giving non occasional gifts to each other will help you maintain the charm in your relation.

• You can also gift him things that would remind him of your first few dates together. Writing love letters might also be another innovative way to bring back the spice.

• To spice up your relationship with your partner you should always try something different and unique which he would never expect from you.

• To make your love life more exciting, take out some time and take a long vacation with your beloved so that you can fall in love with him all over again.

• Compliment your partner often to show him that you still notice him and also appreciate him for his achievements.

• You can join a dance class with your partner to spend time together and to relax with each other.

• Work on your appearance. Give yourself a different look.

If you really want to bring back spark and charm in your life go out of your way in expressing your love for him.



We get so involved with life, work and our own individual lives that we forget about our loved one and take him for granted. It becomes very important for you to take efforts to maintain the spark in your love life to make it interesting and enjoyable rather than dull and boring.

As your relationship starts to grow, it becomes monotonous and boring. Don’t panic each one of us have to face this at one point or the other in life. Here are a few tips that will help you spice up your relationship:

• Communication is the best to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Never carry on a relationship just for the heck of it. Talk out the problems you facing with your partner. Plan out and spent time with your partner to discuss the various issues.

• When the both of you come home from work always give each other a hug. This gesture of yours will make them feel loved and wanted and also that you are always there by their side. Show him your support.

• Boredom may also occur when you are spending too much time with your partner. Try and give space in your relationship. Never loose your own identity when you are in a relationship. Too often in a relationship we forget ourselves and try and imbibe the other person’s likes and dislikes. Do things which you like to do individually.

• Keep gifting things to each other. Giving non occasional gifts to each other will help you maintain the charm in your relation.

• You can also gift him things that would remind him of your first few dates together. Writing love letters might also be another innovative way to bring back the spice.

• To spice up your relationship with your partner you should always try something different and unique which he would never expect from you.

• To make your love life more exciting, take out some time and take a long vacation with your beloved so that you can fall in love with him all over again.

• Compliment your partner often to show him that you still notice him and also appreciate him for his achievements.

• You can join a dance class with your partner to spend time together and to relax with each other.

• Work on your appearance. Give yourself a different look.

If you really want to bring back spark and charm in your life go out of your way in expressing your love for him.

What Would You Do If The Internet Was Destroyed?

A long time ago, in a place that might seem like another dimension, the internet did not yet exist. It was a sad place, a grim world where conversations took place over the telephone and in person. It was a place where people had to keep up the pretenses of being polite, respectable people, lest they be viewed as angry, raving lunatics. And as for information? Well, it moved slowly. So slowly, in fact, that documents were moved in things called envelopes and driven on trucks to their destination. Sounds like the damn dark ages, doesn't it?




Really though, what would happen to the world today if the Internet was suddenly yanked out from under us? I'm not asking what things would be like if it never existed, either. I want to know what so many internet-reliant people would do when faced with a sudden, permanent loss of instantaneous communication.



I've got a few predictions:



1. The global economy would take a massive, MASSIVE hit. I'm no economic forecaster, of course, but it doesn't take a number-cruncher to recognize the how many companies are reliant on the web to make their profit. Millions would be out of work, and IT workers would find a major part of their expertise circling the drain.



2. There would likely be a sudden pregnancy boom. With so many people finding that their favorite web hobbies are no longer available to them, it's realistic to think that people might start spending more quality time with their significant other's. Additionally, with the inevitable collapse of the pr0n industry, people will have to try harder to stay carnally satisfied, leading everyone to new relationships and lower expectations. Clicking and wanking will no longer be a replacement for a girlfriend.



3. Support groups would spring up overnight. Facebook withdrawal, coupled with numerous other forms of detox symptoms brought on by internetlessness will bring the weak-spirited to their knees. The mantra "Hi, my name is [blank], and I lost all my [insert social network here] friends." will be repeated thousands upon thousands of times. Pills will be popped, alcohol consumed, and coping will ensue. It will be a long, hard process for many.



4. Slowly but surely, people will stop acting like assholes. The internet has always had the unique ability to turn people who would normally be smiling, polite citizens into malicious morons with nothing better to do than berate their fellow man for a difference of opinion. The slower pace of information may also serve to keep people's nerves below boiling point. Without the barrier of anonymity that the internet provides, incidences of flaming should dissipate quickly and be left to the only place it really ever belonged anyway: Congress.



5. Obesity will gradually decline. Usage of the internet also involves a great deal of sit-on-your-ass-itis, which means that without it, people will begin to use their legs more often and slowly venture outdoors again. Computers will still be useful for various activities, of course, but the idea of getting up to smell the roses will take hold more easily without the addictive lure of the web.



What would you do, or what do you think would happen if the internet were suddenly gone?



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你說我變質了

我在沙上，埋下了這個貼著逾期標籤的玻璃瓶。


連同已變質的自己，一同埋下......



剛開始的時候，你說我很尊重你，什麼事也先問過你。

現在，你卻說我沒有主見。



剛開始的時候，你說我待你很溫柔，已經十分罕有。

現在，你卻說我陰柔寡斷。



剛開始的時候，你說我很緊張你，對你的小事也著緊。

現在，你卻說我神經過敏。



剛開始的時侯，你說我很幽默，常逗得你捧腹大笑。

現在，你卻叫我別再以為自己的冷笑話可笑。



剛開始的時侯，你說我不是笨，而是單純。

現在，你卻問我怎麼愚不可及。



剛開始的時候，你說我好得近乎完美。

現在，你卻說我一無事處。



昨天，

你說我變質了，

你說從前的我已不在，

你說......我迫你離開了。



今天，

我終於知道，

對你而言，我有限定的保鮮期。

逾期了，我只是變質了、沒有價值的商品......



剩下的，只這一堆「剛開始」。

Improve your memory and feed your brain =)

Would you like to improve memory and feed your brain with special brain foods to feel and act younger? The proper foods have an amazing way of protecting against age related illnesses. Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Getting older and getting forgetful? Do you forget your husband's name and instead call him by the dog's name? Are you worried about Alzheimers or senility catching up as you age? If you answered yes to any of these questions, read on for ideas to improve memory and feed your belly with natural brain foods to increase brain function and overall health.

EAT FISH:

One of the best foods to help improve memory is fish, not only for its iodine content, but also for the fatty acids found in the form of Omega 3. The fattier the fish the better. Eat tuna, salmon, mackerel and sardines. Omega 3 helps to protect the brain, improve memory and aids in overall function. Iodine not only feeds the brain but also the thyroid helping to maintain metabolism and general good health. Iodine is found in sea salt and iodized salt and in all forms of seaweed or kelp. Here's justification for eating out at those expensive and delicious Japanese restaurants and eating lots of sushi! Just tell your spouse you want to improve memory and eat brain foods when you go to eat out.

INCORPORATE FLAX SEEDS AND FLAX SEED OIL:

Flax seed and flax seed oil is extremely high in omega 3 fatty acids and consuming these tiny seeds will give your brain a huge boost to improve memory. Best to buy and grind your own at the time you want to add them to your recipes. Pick up an inexpensive coffee bean grinder and use only for herbs and spices and of course flax seed. Whir in the grinder for a minute and sprinkle on your cereal, veggies, mix with rice or soup. Just about everything tastes good with flax see including mixing freshly ground flax into your smoothies, so feed your brain with brain food.

EAT BERRIES AND RED FOODS:

Fruits and vegetables improve memory and help support the human system in a variety of ways. Antioxidants aid the body in circulation as well as protecting against cancer and other diseases of aging. Eat berries, especially blueberries, asparagus, kale, sweet potatoes and black currants to improve memory. Red foods help increase circulation to the brain like tomatoes, strawberries, cherries and radish and can also aid to improve memory.

USE GINSENG:

Two funny sounding but potent herbs are the king and queen of memory boosting products on the market. Ginseng is an ancient Chinese herb whose root grows into what looks like the human form. It's been used in Chinese medicine for centuries and is a mainstay for use in helping to balance and sustain proper hormone production in the body, improve memory and feed the brain. Without the correct hormonal balance the brain becomes stressed and begins to rebel against natural activities seeking rest and rejuvenation. This powerful adaptogen helps the brain and the body regain proper stasis.

INCORPORATE GINKO BILOBA IN YOUR DIET:

And Ginko Biloba, is also a powerful Chinese herb known to aid increased circulation enhancing blood flow to the brain and improve memory. An excellent brain food, the staying power of Gingko is quite remarkable. It is said that after the nuclear bombings in Japan at the end of World War II, the only thing left standing in the wake of the horror were the Gingko trees. Gingko leaves are mirror images of one another and look similar to two hearts attached at the center giving mind to the herbs' use as a circulatory stimulant.

ADD OLIVE OIL TO YOUR DIET:

Remember to use olive oil, high in omega fatty acids 3 and 6 and polyunsaturated. This wonderful, life-giving oil will improve memory and support your system in many ways. Our bodies need healthy fats to aid nerves to function properly. Be sure it is cold pressed olive oil. Adding heat destroys much of the goodness found in this well known brain food.

REMEMBER TO TAKE VITAMIN B12:

Improve memory with a daily dose of vitamin B brain food, especially B12. Well known in its use to increase circulation and sooth frazzled nerve fibers, this panacea to life's daily aggravations will offer huge relief when taken regularly and in the proper dosage.

POUR ON THE HONEY:

And last but not least, to add to life's sweetness and improve memory, include natural honey in your diet. Studies have shown it aids in decreasing anxiety, increasing calm that helps us to sleep better and improve memory during ageing. Honey is found to have antioxidants which also help to prevent free radicals from damaging cell growth. There are a great many types of honey to choose from, something to please every taste palate. Have a teaspoon or two right before going to bed and sleep like a baby while digesting the sweetest brain food.

梁静茹-可惜不是你

離別令人學懂心痛

「真的沒有可能了嗎？」我說道。「沒有」是我預期的答案。




從褲袋拿出介指和項鏈在她面前憤怒地拋出大海是我為她最後做的事。



「沒有話說了嗎？」她平靜地轉身而走，那天起我失去了一年零七個月的初戀女友，感覺就像失去一切。



從此電話裡頭再沒有她的來電，但我仍無時無刻地期待著電話響起的一刻是顯示她的名字。



曾經想過要死緾難打把她搶回來，但心知是沒有用的，也不像我的作風。



沒有她後的日子只有和「行屍走肉」這成語為伴，想著過去，亦活在過去。



唯一得到的只有活了二十年從未在心裡出現過的痛。從分手一刻開始不斷累積，一次又一次。



放下從前的初戀開始了另一段感情，亦同樣的不告而別。不一樣的人，卻是一樣的結局。



如果戀愛是練愛的過程；那麼離別後就是要練痛。



離別的確令人學懂心痛，朋友，你的痛還在嗎？

我不配

[一个男人深深的爱着一个女人]

烛光晚餐。桌两边，坐了男人和女人。




“我喜欢你。”女人一边摆弄着手里的酒杯，一边淡淡的说着。



“我有老婆。”男人摸着自己的手上的戒指。



“我不在乎，我只想知道，你的感觉。你，喜欢我嘛？”



意料中的答案。男人抬起头，打量着对面的女人。



24岁，年轻，有朝气，相当不错的年纪。



白皙的皮肤，充满活力的身体，一双明亮的，会说话的眼睛。



真是不错的女孩啊，可惜。



“如果你也喜欢我，我不介意作你的情人。”女人终于等不下去，追加了一句。



“我爱我妻子。”?男人坚定的回答。



“你爱她？爱她什么？现在的她，应该已经年老色衰，见不得人了吧。



否则，公司的晚宴，怎么从来不见你带她来……”



女人还想继续，可接触到男人冷冷的目光后，打消了念头。



静……



“你喜欢我什么？”男人开口了。



“成熟，稳重，动作举止很有男人味，懂得关心人，很多很多。反正，和我之前见过的人不同。你很特别。”



“你知道三年前的我，什么样子？”男人点了颗烟。



“不知道。我不在乎，即使你坐过牢。”



“三年前，我就是你现在眼里的那些普通男人。”男人没理会女人，继续说。



“普通大学毕业，工作不顺心，整天喝酒，发脾气。对女孩子爱理不理，靠**来发泄自己的欲求不满。还因为去夜总会找小姐，被**抓过。”



那怎么？”女人有了兴趣，想知道是什么，让男人转变的。“因为她？”



“嗯。”



“她那个人，好像总能很容易就能看到事情的内在。教我很多东西，让我别太计较得失；别太在乎眼前的事；让我尽量待人和善。那时的我在她面前，就像少不更事的孩子。也许那感觉，就和现在你对我的感觉差不多。那时真的很奇怪，倔脾气的我，只是听她的话。按照她说的，接受现实，知道自己没用，就努力工作。那年年底，工作上，稍微有了起色，我们结婚了。”



男人弹了弹烟灰，继续说着。



“那时，真是苦日子。两个人，一张床，家里的家具，也少的可怜。知道吗？结婚一年，我才给她买了第一颗钻戒，存了大半年的钱呢。当然，是背着她存的。若她知道了，是肯定不让的。”



“那阵子，烟酒弄得身体不好。大冬天的，她每天晚上睡前还要给我熬汤喝。那味道，也只有她做得出。”



男人沉醉于那回忆里，忘记了时间，只是不停的讲述着往事。



而女人，也丝毫没有打扰的意思，就静静地听着。



等男人注意到时间，已经晚上10点了。



“啊，对不起，没注意时间，已经这么晚了。”男人歉意的笑了笑。



“现在，你可以理解嘛？我不可能，也不会，作对不起她的事。”



“啊，知道了。输给这样子的人，心服口服咯。”女人无奈地摇了摇头。“不过我到了她的年纪，会更棒的。”



“嗯。那就可以找到更好的男人。不是吗？



很晚了，家里的汤要冷了，我送你回去。”男人站起身，想送女人。



“不了，我自己回去可以了。”女人摆了摆手。“回去吧，别让她等急了。”



男人会心的笑了笑，转身要走。



“她漂亮嘛？”



“。。。。。。。。。。。。。。嗯，很美。”



男人的身影消失在夜色中，留下女人，对着蜡烛。发呆。



男人回到家，推开门，径直走到卧室，打开了台灯。



沿着床边，坐了下来。



“老婆，已经第四个了。干吗让我变成这么好，好多人喜欢我呀。搞不好，我会变心呀。干吗把我变成这么好，自己却先走了？我，我一个人，好孤单呀。”



男人哽咽的说着，终于泣不成声。



眼泪，一滴滴的从男人的脸颊流下，打在手心里的相框上。昏暗的灯光中，旧照片里，弥漫着的，是已逝女子，淡淡的温柔。

5 More College Idiots

A few months back, I created, not one, but two lists of the type of moronic characters that are so easily found on most college campuses. Sure, I could have kept the list down to the five most visible, most broad stereotypes, but just as people are diverse, so are idiots. There are so many different flavors of stupidity and aggravation, that it's hard not to dish on every single one.




Therefore, I felt it was time to expand the list once again. After all, it's not just the pranksters or the overly studious that annoy us to no end and prevent us from sleeping, no — it's practically everybody! Well...almost.





-The Know-It-All, Hippie Philosophy Student - I have a lot of respect for people who study philosophy, really, I do. Though I can't imagine what they intend to do with their degree once they get it, the research and reading they have to do is difficult and requires a lot of patience. That said, some of them are also the most annoying people on the planet.

They think they see the futility in things like exercise and eating smart, and wonder why people bother to get up before noon. They then stay up all night reading books with extremely small print and scribbling in their tiny moleskin notebooks, taking short breaks only to mooch pot off the guys upstairs and to cook egg sandwiches. When they finally wake up the following day, they tell you about the revelation they had while you were asleep. You then proceed to face-palm yourself.



-The Guitar Guy - While it can be a chore to live with the musically obsessed, it's potentially even worse to live with someone who's got six strings and a story to tell. They want everybody to know who they are, and that they can give Jimmy Page a run for his money. Forget partying, this guy'll shred from dusk to dawn, taking breaks only to piss and vainly attempt to find people who want to jam. He'll claim to be in love with his instrument and claim that "Women are irrelevant", that is, until one shows even the slightest interest in his craft.



[...guilty as charged.]



-Mr. OneUpsMan - This one's real simple. No matter what you've done in your life, this guy's done it too, but better. You went base jumping? He went skydiving...without a chute. You've slept with five women? He's slept with ten. You took a huge dump this morning? He shat two solid gold bricks. That's just the way it goes with this guy. If you find you can't ignore him, though, the best thing to do is call his bluff. Tell him about how gonorrhriffic your urine's been lately (a lie, obviously...I should hope.)and see how long it takes him to start pissing fire.



-The Girl That Won't Leave - So one of your roommates has befriended a girl from the dorm building across the quad. She's decided that you and your band of misfits are the absolute raddest dudes ever and has made it her solemn duty to become one with the douchebaggery. Except, she's overly bubbly, just a little clueless and doesn't know when she's overstayed her welcome. She'll insert herself into situations where she doesn't belong, take up space and generally just get in the way. Solution? Start locking the door and having everyone screen their calls.



-The Girl That Takes Partying Too Seriously - For some, she's a blessing. For most, she's a curse. She's at every single one of your parties, and she's makes sure to be the loudest, most obnoxious, most visible one there. She's in every picture, had at least one shot of everything available, but probably more, and has made a move on nearly every guy in attendance, and at least two or three girls. Clothes are just a hindrance to her, and she'll have sex on your bed or hump someone in your hallway without a second thought. The worst part — there's no way to stop her. You just have to wait until she's tired herself out or the booze has dried up.



What other kinds of college idiots are there?